AIDA VICTORIA REVELA LO QUE SUFRIÓ EN SILENCIO I Vos podés el podcast - Ep 218 I

Becoming a mother changed her world and reordered her priorities forever. Today, Aida Victoria Merlano shares a safer version of herself, determined to set boundaries and break old patterns. I'm so happy to be back with you. Remember to subscribe because every Wednesday we have an incredible premiere with stories of women who inspire.

And the woman I have in front of me is a woman you voted for a lot, you have written a lot, you have tagged me everywhere. Hey, how difficult, how difficult. You slip and she alone. But finally, here she is.

Aida Merlano. Bravo! Until the day came.

I felt like Beyoncé, my love.

How are you, dear? Super good, very happy.

I feel like this is going to be a beautiful, divine space, thanks to the people who clicked and said, I can't miss this. I mean, we don't even know what's going to come out, but you already trusted. Beni, you told me you were nervous.

Why?

Because this is a very intimate space, and I know that things are very energetic. So you know that there are places where you can get a little nervous. So that kind of makes me a little nervous. But as you were saying, you've been to therapy, so don't stress. Yes, my love, I just got out of therapy.

How's your doll? Let's start there. He's so cute, beautiful, fat, fat, big, delicious thing. I make a kiss on each side. How has motherhood treated you? Divinely. I always say it, motherhood with money is another movie. Motherhood with a solid support network is another movie.

Motherhood, when you decide to take out everything that generates suffering, is divine. Look, how important when you are mentioning here motherhood with money, because sadly we live in a society very unequal, where not everyone has the same privileges. Do you feel very privileged in this moment of your life? Absolutely. I am an absolutely privileged woman.

I have the opportunity, I mean, imagine, right now you were asking me and your baby? And I said no, with her two nannies. I got you, I got you. Yes, and that's actually very nice, because imagine, my son has a nana, and he has the substitute nana, who is the one who is there when the nana leaves. And it turns out that my son adores his substitute nana, and he also has a girl's soul, so he plays with her, and I'm like,

oh no, if he likes the look, when I listen to moms, I haven't had the opportunity to be a mom yet, in most cases, Aida, they say that you try to give your children what you didn't have. How is that phrase currently reflected in your life? Look, I think that from the shortcomings that one has,

in some way, the behavior that one that you will have with your children. For example, it happens to me that at some point I feel very tired or overwhelmed with work and I feel like that energy and suddenly thinking about the opportunities that I lost, maybe because my mom was working a lot, there automatically that makes me land and say, wait, you have already worked a lot, I know there's more work,

but no, it's time to suspend this, because your son needs you now. So, in a way, I think that one is constantly reformulating from what he didn't have. And it's not money, it's often time, it's perhaps the way in which one even raises them. Because, let's see, I have a seven-month-old baby, but I talk to him a lot.

And I'm always telling him, I love you, you're incredible, you're noble, you're brilliant, you're fantastic. I'm telling him all the time, and I feel that it's growing in his unconscious. What does your son have that you didn't, for example? Well, I think I'll know that later. But, I mean, when I was a baby, I came to a home with some financial shortcomings. My family is from a middle-class family.

So, let's say that my son, imagine, has a park in the living room. I mean, he has a park in the living room of the house. He has some super-present babysitters who love him, who adore him. He has a happy mom who feels full with the life she has, and that's very important because you need happy parents. So let's say that for now, in the future, I would like to have a super-present mom

who goes to all her events, who goes to the delivery of tickets to scold him, and look at him and tell him, we're going to fix a couple of things here. When he has a girlfriend, are you going to be a jealous mom and a whore? Oh, I feel that when he has a girlfriend, I'm going to...

He's going to be there.

No, but not a jealous mom of the girlfriend. If not, I'm going to be very present, I'll come to see you with your vagabond behavior, because I'll take your vagabondry off your chest.

Yes, would you be like that?

Yes, obviously. Do you consider that it's important or not so important the presence of a father in the upbringing of a child? Look, coming and telling you that a father is not necessary in the life of a child because when you have a good mother, you don't need a father, that's a lie. Everyone has a different role.

Children not only need that maternal hug and that motherly support, but also that push to life of, well, ready to face it. And that is often given by that masculine energy and that father. So yes, children need mom and dad. However, that does not mean that if you have a partner or an irresponsible foster partner, it will mean that the child will have a bad future or that maybe he won't

be the person you would dream of becoming, you know? But it is necessary, obviously. How do you live that position of single mom? Divinely, because at the moment I made the decision to separate, which was three days after giving birth, every day from then on I thanked myself a lot, because ultimately people say that giving birth is only hard, but giving birth with a bad partner is hell.

So I really live my maternity divinely, I support my son alone, which I feel very proud of. I give him everything on an economic level and everything I can on an emotional level. My son has my time, my words of affirmation. I have the fortune of being able to carry him up and down. I used to bring him with me on these trips,

but then I started to think him with me on these trips, but then I started thinking, I go two days, and then I have him from one place to another. But he goes with me to the photos, to the shoots, everything. I carry him up and down. You didn't visualize yourself like that. Look how you managed to arrange your schedule with a baby next to you.

Money. I mean, I tell you something, that story of, no, maternity is a divine thing, I'm not going to romanticize maternity. My maternity is completely different from all of them, because I'm a woman with money, and that automatically gives me the ability to choose

who I have by my side and who I don't. Automatically, not having money puts you in a position where you have to follow other people's rules, you have to be writing to other people, begging them to answer you, all that complicates motherhood. Fortunately, I have everything to live my motherhood divinely and happily. Look, you just mentioned that you thanked others.

Sometimes you thank others, right? It's easy. Thank you for this, for your help, for being there, for being with me. But it's hard to thank someone for the decisions. What are those decisions for which you have consciously thanked? For separating me.

I thanked a lot, every day. Because, look, one is a specialist giving himself a beating. And I'm a fan of palotherapy. Cheers! No, cheers to palotherapy.

Pana, I swear. I mean, my best friend always tells me. But why? Why do we give ourselves so much beating? Do you know why? Because you supplant the inner voices of the people who demanded it from you when you were a child. That simple. Imagine, I come from a home with a super demanding mother,

super, you have to do this and this and this and this, that suddenly, in the face of a certain... Yes, there was no margin for error. So, in the face of a certain error, automatically, boom, a stick and for your self-esteem. So, of course, you get so used to that, that when you're an adult

and you don't have those external voices anymore, an internal voice replaces it. And I'm a specialist in, this isn't that big, you didn't give it that much, you could have done more, always.

So, let's say it's a battle and an internal chaos with which I deal every day. But are you working on that? Yes, of course. I mean, automatically, as soon as I get a thought like, this is not good enough, I try to replace it. Hey, hey, hey, hey, hey. They've already given you a lot of beating in life

so that you can keep giving yourself too. Let's see. So, it's like I land and do therapy myself. What happened? What did you do? And what's good about this? So I say, well, you did an amazing job, you said this, you could have said that, and you didn't, you were abstract,

you did this, you did an amazing job. And because things that you can mention, Aida, that you can mention and that you can proudly say, thank you, this was for me, I did this, you have them on your list, which ones? I say it all the time. First, because I've been through a lot of shit in my life,

and instead of eating it, I've taken it as a fertilizer. So I say, I thank myself for this. I thank myself because instead of making excuses, I see those adverse circumstances as a motor that pushes me to achieve great things. So I say, that's brutal. I thank myself because I'm an incredible mom.

I mean, I'm really, I feel super proud of the mom I am. I thank you because I understand perfectly that, there's a phrase that says, there are people who hunt butterflies and there are others who build a garden that attracts those butterflies.

So I feel proud because I'm in those, like building that garden, watering it every day, and it happened to me that I bring beautiful things. So I say, these beautiful things that you are bringing are a product of what you are building internally, thank you for that.

Thank you for the difficult decisions you make every day. Thank you for the days when you don't have motivation, you have discipline, and you want to reach the goal even if you don't want to go through the process of reaching the goal. So, I try to thank myself for all of those things, but I hate myself for being my number one hater.

Oh my God, and being a hater yourself, beating yourself up with your speech, Aida, I think you go all the way.

Totally, sometimes I see people who screw me over. Oh, little ones. My love, I say the worst things, my life. I can put you to compete with someone who is in here. No, my love, I have said the worst things, my king. That topic that represents, speaking of these haters, what do they mean in your life? What do they represent?

Love, haters are a mirror. They are a mirror through which you have to look at yourself from time to time to see what you're doing wrong, or to reaffirm that you are the person you truly want to be. I mean, haters are complex beings, but at the end of the day they add up, they visualize.

I mean, in the end, when a brand asks me for my metrics, they don't ask me who wants me and who doesn't.

I'm going to think about that. Who sees you?

Of course, haters are part of the metric that makes me charge more. So I'm also grateful.

So thank you.

And on the other hand, there are people who are not haters, but they are detractors, who are not a hater, but I am a tractor fan, which is not a hater, but... Jesus Christ had tractors that he left for this poor mortal.

No!

What is this stage called? What stage is Aida in? In the stage of rebirth. I would call this stage of life the rebirth of victory. People must understand that life is cyclical. And you have moments when you are up, moments when you have to go down, moments when you go up again, because unfortunately that's how you learn,

on the way down. So I had difficult, complex episodes, depressions, super adverse moments. That helped me to understand many things, to talk with depression, to listen to it and to listen to my body, to understand how I wanted to restructure, and suddenly, if I was here and I fell here, then now I'm here. So I'm in that moment of my life, like already getting out of the chaos.

Aida, who is your closest circle? Right now my closest circle is obviously my son, my best friend, the people who help me with the kid and the house, my best friend, and yes, and several more friends, who are not there every day, but who, at the distance of a WhatsApp, appear and cover me, as if, rather, they had been supporting me for a month. What kind of friend are you?

I am friend cactus.

No, I mean, nothing, she shiega solita y aparece de vez en cuando.

Sí, mi amor, yo soy amiga cactus y amo a los amigos cactus. Y yo soy una amiga que va contigo a fuego y a muerte, pero no esperes que yo te escriba todos los días a decirte, buenos días, ¿cómo amaneces? Yo no soy esa. Yo soy la amiga que si tú le dices, I'm having a lot of problems, I move the whole world to solve them, but that's like,

what else? How are we going to do it? To throw in the towel of the day? No, and I'm terrible at asking how you are. I prefer that you tell me what's going on and I contain you, I listen to you, I hug you, there I am. But being so present and aware of what's going on in your life. I'm not very good at it. And how has that friendship thing helped you?

I've failed, and I've failed too. Because the truth is, I've also had many mistakes as a friend. The thing is, sometimes you play the role of what the world does to you, but not what you do. And we have to talk about that too. For example,

I've had friends who I feel have been very committed and maybe they weren't up to my standards. And from the bottom of my heart I've said, hey, you're not the friend I want right now. Because I feel like you're subtracting from me, because I feel like there's no reciprocity,

because I feel like this is a wear and tear and that everything is going that way, but here you don't receive anything, and I don't think so. But you got to the point of talking to him, or you just kept your distance? Yes, I got to the point of talking to him. It happened to me with a friend that we kept our distance, then we got closer again, and so on. But it has also happened to me that I have been a bad friend,

I mean, really. It has happened to me. And all because sometimes you act from your wounds. For example, it happened to me with my best friend, that at a certain point I distanced myself from her. And her love was super genuine, super cute, super dedicated. And there's a point where you're so used to shit that you see it and say, is this real?

And you doubt, is there some interest in the middle? Is it that? Do you understand me? And suddenly I took a certain distance and time answered my doubts. And fortunately, that woman is noble, and when I came back as a repentant dog, with the tail between my legs, I said,

I think I screwed up with you. And I told her, you know what? I screwed up. Your love was so pure, so sincere and so good, that I didn't know that thing. And that's why I let you go. Forgive me, bitch, but here I am. Accepting with ovaries, I fucked up.

And yes. And is it easy for you to recognize that? Yes, I'm a specialist in giving me a beating, my love. Recognizing is a piece of cake. No, I'm telling you the truth, I don't have an ego. The truth just going to admit that I was wrong. I messed up, this wasn't right, this and that.

Let's talk about your book. How did that experience go for you? It was incredible. Writing it was therapeutic, healing. People cried, were moved. In terms of sales and numbers, it was best-seller in 24 hours. It sold like crazy. And obviously, now it's a book that's ultra hyper mega pirated because everyone shares it, but at the end of the day, I think that's what matters, that more people can access it.

And like I said, many times people are mirrors. So there are people who read the story, connect with things and say, I hadn't seen this from this perspective. And they take it to them. But how did you get to him? Does someone look for you or one day they say, I want to write my story? I'm very daring.

So I think, imagine that I had a lot of loose texts in my phone notes, letters that I wrote to my ex, letters that I wrote to myself, things that allowed me to exteriorize what I was feeling, see it from a different perspective and maybe adjust things. So I verbalized what I felt and sometimes I wrote it, and there were a lot of loose texts.

Some people come and tell me, I said, no Aida, have you ever thought about writing a book? And I said, I already have a book written.

I have like three.

Love, I already have a book.

No way.

I have a book. And I remember it was a conversation with my best friend in which one day I told her, look, I wrote something, read it to me. And I started reading it and I see her crying. And I, hmm, I get very emotional.

You're getting me.

And she says, no, this is for a book, you write amazing. So I got empowered and I said, I'm going to keep writing little things. Of course, when they arrived, I was like, no, I have a book. We can publish it in three months if you want. No! You're kidding! You want me to tell you my levels of daring? No! There was a controversy with me, people were like, throwing shit at me,

and I was like, I'm going to eat this shit for free. No, my love, I grabbed Incamba, I grabbed Incamba, I swear to you, for my life. I made the cover of theias. Like that? Period. And the Samoretas of History were available that day. And the team told me,

how are we going to get the book that day? And I said, well, guys, I don't know how we're going to do it. But you sent us the draft. I sent it. And don't worry, I write well. And in fact, when I sent the book,

the style corrector says, super bien su único problema es con dónde pone las comas después de los sujetos y tal como que explica eso pero hasta el punticoma lo usa súper bien y yo era un tema gramatical básico era un tema súper básico entonces nos enviaron como que la corrección de estilo con las comitas yo eso sí yo dije a mí no me mueva ni una sola palabra a mí no me cambia nada porque la verdad yo estoy perfecta con como está entonces me mandaron ya como que with how it is. So they sent me the corrected version, I liked everything, and in fact the book was not ready. And I said, no, this has to be taken out express, guys, because I already said that it was going to be sold out. Because there is a little shit out there.

And you have to take advantage of this whole thing. And the strategy we used for the book was that we did a pre-sale, because as it was e-book, we knew that it was going to go viral. So, of course, we sold a lot of units. And when people started getting the book, sales were still good, but we had already sold what was necessary so that I didn't care if it went viral. With everything, are you like that?

With the decisions, with the strategies, with the projects, you take three steps and then you say, I don't know how to solve it. Look, the things I appreciate is my boldness. I've been so bold.

Crazy!

Yes, that's why I'm so successful.

I love it!

Really, moreover, the extended version of the book, I come and tell my best friend, well, remember that in June the physical version of the book is coming out, and she says, but you already have it, and I'm like, no, but I've been writing so many cool things these days, that no, that's going to be ready by June. And she's like, oh my God, bless her.

This girl, who can stand her, who can hold her back.

How crazy, what other decision in your life has been like this? Like in the middle of the boldness and this thing goes forward. No, for example, when I started on social media, I saw the movie with the theme of how it was monetized and all that. I remember that I had a friend at that time, and I took her name, and then I said, look, Aida, we are interested in a project. Let me contact you with my manager, and it was me.

Hello, how are you? This is Paola, nice to meet you, I'm Aida's manager. And then suddenly they asked for things, and I was like, oh, Aida, so lovely, but you know that as a manager I have to cover these things. Oh, and with a record! Of course, it was an amazing thing, until suddenly the first call came. Oh, I would like to have a, Paola, come here, listen, I'll write you. And she was like, hello, how are you? And I was like this.

And suddenly I saw that she did it well and I told her, come, stay as my assistant. So we worked together. Incredible, there are people who wait for things to happen, and other people who make things happen. But I'm going there, I'm going there. You have to make things happen, but you also have to be prepared.

So what happens? There are people who go for the life, and I would like to be that, or I would like to access that opportunity, I would like that thing. Yes, but if you grab the opportunity, you can grab it with your panties down. You are really prepared. So I do feel that as long as the opportunity comes, or you forge the opportunity, you have to forge things in yourself.

Who am I? And if I'm up to it, what do I want to bring to my life? You were just talking about how people received it in a very special way. What did you find that you didn't expect? I'll tell you the truth. I told the team, like, well, let's get ready because as soon as we send the book, it's going to be filled with TikToks of people criticizing me.

I mean, I said it. It's going to be filled with TikToks of people criticizing me, obviously people who say that I'm not a writer, that what's wrong with me, and very surely writers are going to come out to criticize my writing style. I don't care. With this, I generate what my best friend, she'll help me a lot, and she'll heal a lot of people, I don't care, but let's prepare for that."

And suddenly she comes and says, and they started doing reviews of the book, and I'm like, chill, fuck me, I don't care. And she starts sending me the TikToks, and I'm like, and I go in, and one of them, she just read Aida's book and made me cry,

and I'm going to cry." And I... And I started to analyze everything people were saying, and I said, why am I such a hater? Why am I always expecting the worst? People using the phrase of the book, plagiarizing TikTok, in fact, there are a lot of TikToks with audio book fragments. And I said, I can't believe this, this is crazy.

People writing to me, Aida, thanks to you I discovered that I was loving from the audiobook. And I said, I can't believe this, this is crazy. People writing to me, Aida, thanks to you I discovered that I was loving from the wound. And I, uff. Aida, I gave material to the rooster, bye. I was filled with courage, courage, I grabbed myself and went forward. Aida, I'm still in the same situation as before,

but I have a different consciousness, thanks for that. How beautiful, right? I'm not in the same situation as before, but I have a different consciousness. Thank you for that. How nice. And some people who were your haters, did they change their minds after reading your book? Yes, many. Yes, many changed their minds. In fact, I got messages from people who said,

I followed you for mere humor and gossip, but I read your book and I connected a lot. You are absolutely right about this. And you also know what happens,, people sometimes publish books that are perfect for teaching you how to live life. I'm going to show you a life coach, and my book is literally written from the open wound. It's a phrase from the book.

This book is written from the open wound and seen by a bleeding person. Because many of the things I talk about are like, I haven't solved this, this is something that's there, but seeing it has helped me understand certain things. I could help you if you want.

What open wound did you have at that moment? At that moment I had the open wound of broken self-esteem, broken self-confidence, perhaps doubting my own broken value, open wound of betrayal. I think I had a lot of open wounds at that time, but also the response of people helped me heal a lot of things.

But sometimes between many broken people, indestructible bonds are formed. Obviously. That's what you feel right now with your community. Yes, I feel that happens a lot. Because, look,

somehow if I were the woman who has her life fulfilled at a family level, who has the son, the husband, the house, the dog, and everything perfect, many women would see that as beautiful, ideal, because it's what I want, but it's very different from what happens to me. But suddenly they see me and say, she's a successful woman. That today I can tell you that I'm full with my life.

And she doesn't have a husband, a house, and a dog. So you know what, Pana? I don't need this. What good is it to me, a husband, a house, and a dog when the husband is burning the house and poisoning the dog? No, my love.

What do you call success? I call success a state of satisfaction with the results you have. And that means having a good result on an emotional, physical, and work level. In all fields. And you feel that at this moment you are experiencing the success of your life. In other moments I have also felt it.

I mean, I have had my moments of success in which I say, I'm breaking it and then, uff, I wanted to break it and I fixed it.

Oh my God!

But I feel very successful and fortunate, the truth. The issue of social networks, Aida, is very counterproductive. Some people like it, some people don't. It has worked very well for you, with all those controversies, because you've had a lot of controversies.

Too many.

How many? More than I'd like. Did you ever imagine that you'd be involved in so many controversies?

Never.

I mean, before I started on social media, I had 99 followers. I made my stories for my friends. I have friends that I meet at school and they say, but you always liked that. Of course, because in the Snapchat era, I would go up telling stories and telling things,

and people would laugh and get hooked, but they were my friends, it was a small group. Of course. I've never liked the photos. Nowadays I don't like them either, I only take them for work. But I've never liked the photos because I feel like they don't fully portray

the moment you live. I mean, if a video doesn't give you the chance to faithfully portray moments, imagine a photo. So I never imagined myself as a public figure, or as such a media figure, or as a media figure. But you know why I'm asking you? Because there are people who play that game, it works for them, it works for them.

Surely you have also been able to manage and dominate that game, and use it in your favor and monetize with what you are doing. But there are people who really enjoy being in controversies. There are people whose daily life is, if I don't have controversy, nothing is happening to me. In your case, what do you think? No, really the issue of enjoying being in controversy,

I respect the one who enjoys it, but in my case, no. I mean, it sometimes generates anxiety. Somehow, when there is a controlled explosion, one says, ready, I already knew what I was getting into, I already knew that I was getting into, I already knew I was going this way. It doesn't mean that I enjoy it and that it doesn't hit me, but in some way it's like,

I already had this more or less controlled or measured. But when things come out of nowhere... Let's talk about purpose. A phrase or a word, rather, very mentioned. A lot of people talk about purpose. Do you have your purpose clear? Yes. What is it? To impact people.

To impact people through my story, my learnings, and above all, my failures. Because of what I told you, you can't come and sell people a perfect ideal and say, look, here I show you that I'm perfect. I feel that my purpose is to say to people,

hello, here I'm screwed up, solving life like everyone else, give this a chance, this and this will help you. Allowing yourself to open the doors in a standstill, because you opened them, in a standstill, and say, this is what is happening to me, requires a lot of courage for that.

Totally. I've seen so many unhappy people selling happy lives on social media, and I say... Mmm... Mmm... And I also see a lot of people, for example, who criticize me on social media. It's because you don't have a long life, it's because you... this and that.

But suddenly you see them enduring such difficult situations, that you don't look at them like, how can you have the authority to criticize me? You say, oh, what a sin. How hard it must be hard. And now you look at them with compassion. Obviously.

And throughout all those transformations, which one has been your version that you've been most compassionate to? I knew it. I'm going to have a coffee drink for that.

Hot tea.

To the pregnant Aida. Today. Before I didn't have compassion for her before, I also gave her her dose of...

No, Aida.

The one I've had the most compassion for is Aida, pregnant. What a drag to stand so hard. I mean, today I see and say, my queen, if you don't have a statue, I'll make it for you, my love. Why? Because I lived very hard, very difficult, very challenging, very complex, very painful things,

and I turned that pain into purpose. So that's why I have a lot of compassion for him. I lived very hard things, really. Besides, you mentioned three days a while ago. Three days is a sigh. Aida, three days is a sigh. Three days is a sigh, but living a hard situation is an eternal hell.

It's very long. As they say, it's not the same five minutes walking than five minutes under water. And you felt like you were under water. Yes, totally. It was hell. Incredible, because also, those of us who follow you on social media saw, because you deserve it, a relationship that apparently looked... And it was fantastic, as far as I showed it.

I remember a time when I loved my relationship, I was super happy, I was happy, and I said, my God, I found the man of my life, this is so magnificent. And it also makes me laugh because there are people who make fun of it and take it as a joke. And it's because I'm so transparent and so sincere that when my relationship was perfect and wonderful, I told it to the four winds.

Exactly.

But there was a time, and my real followers know it, that I stopped publishing to be a journalist. I'm going to be a journalist. I'm going to be a journalist. I'm going to be a journalist. I'm going to be a journalist. I'm going to be a journalist. I'm going to be honest, and even though I wasn't going to talk about what I was going through,

at least I wasn't showing a false side. But look, that's what happens when you open the door. People complain, people demand. Because you, good or bad, give them the right, in the end. And I was going to tell you that. I mean, they have every right. In fact, when people said,

but why don't you say anything? But why haven't you say anything? Why haven't you spoken? I never took it from, how do you demand me? No, if I invite you to live my relationship as if you were my cousin, I have to respect that tomorrow, like my cousin, you come to complain, hey, why haven't you shown me this?

Of course.

Normal.

And did you feel that commitment of, at some point I have to go out and tell, at some point I'm going to have to tear down this castle and people will know. But I didn't mean to tear down the castle, I was just living a complex time, I said this is not a priority right now, I separated, I didn't go out to communicate, the other person went out to communicate, but I didn't even want to talk about it. I wanted at some point to be asked and to say, no, I finished a while ago, that's it.

But I didn't want to go out and tell so much. But people say that I like to smoke. And it's not that I like to smoke, it's that if you go out to give your version, or go out to say things...

I have the right to reply.

My right to reply is that I bury you. Things as they are. It is said that one knows people, you get involved, you get close, you get married, you get together, but you don't separate from anyone. Totally. Did that happen to you?

Totally. Totally. Look, in the worst scenario of a relationship, you can imagine that you are unfaithful, that you find yourself chatting with women, that it turns out that even the guy is of a bad temper, or rather temperament, well, both.

So you say, maybe he gets into a fight, to say ugly things to me, or whatever. You expect that in your most chaotic scenarios, but what I lived, not a single divine would have seen it coming. And the moment this person comes out, because as you mentioned, it was him who decided to speak and open that door, a door that you had closed until that moment. What did you feel as a woman?

Besides what you were already experiencing internally, which was also intimate, because it was yours. I felt surprise and, above all, confusion. Because that's when you start to talk about things, and at the moment that happened, I said,

something here tells me that you liked the networks more than I thought. because that's when you start to smell things. And the moment that happened, I said,

something tells me that you liked social media more than I thought. I was a victim of psychological violence and financial violence. In fact, I reported family violence. But the thing is that when you are in a relationship with the intention of building a family,

you think about the whole. You think about the well-being of the relationship. And when that person somehow sows the discourse of the well-being of the relationship, you give in to many things, even if they go against you. Suddenly, thinking about that well-being of the relationship. Yes.

Look, I'm going to show you something. That, precisely, in my healing processes, I said, I'm going to listen to this voice note many times until it doesn't hurt me anymore and doesn't make me cry. But I'm going to show you something. I sent a voice note to my doula,

who was the one who advised me during my pregnancy and during the lactation stage. And I come and I tell her, imagine, this was what? On July 15th. I was 15 and crazy. I had a conversation with ***.

We are separated but you know that we have business. What is going to happen and what are we going to do? I have told him a thousand times. And then she comes and says, but it's a last effort so that you can lend me so much. And I said, I can't take it anymore.

I'm telling her, look, that was on July 15th. Yes. And I gave birth on July 29th. Do you think it's coherent that a man is telling you that if you please make one last effort to support him, Yo pario un 29 de julio. ¿A ti te parece coherente que un hombre te esté diciendo que si por favor haces un último esfuerzo para apoyarlo estando a 15 días de parir?

Yo escuchaba las notas de voz y yo lloraba a moco tendido y yo decía, ¿cómo es posible que a mí me estuviesen enloqueciendo? Yo sentía que yo me estaba volviendo loca. Porque yo le decía a la persona, tú eres consciente de que yo I felt like I was going crazy. Because I was telling the person, you are aware that I am pregnant. And she said, but that has nothing to do with it. We are building a heritage together.

A heritage because I ask you for an extra effort. We are doing things together. In fact, do you want to see the levels of psychological violence that a man can expose you to? When you see this, you won't be able to believe it. I'm going to show you something that will fill you with a lot of indignation. There was a day that on a video call, I was talking to him

and I told him that I was very stressed because I'm too tight on expenses. And then he said, Oh no, but you stress yourself and you stress me.

No.

I was pregnant. I was like a month away from giving birth. No, pero te estresas tú y me estresas a mí. No. Yo estaba embarazada. Me faltaban que como un mes para parir. Me faltaba un mes para parir. La modalidad de estafa es la siguiente. Tú eres mi pareja, vamos a construir un patrimonio juntos, entonces estamos invirtiendo en negocios juntos.

Listo. Yo se lo dije. A mí no me parece que el embarazo sea una etapa en la que yo I have to be growing in my heritage. I honestly want to be gestating. I mean, I wouldn't like to be like these people. No, but you're growing, look, we're building, and so on. And under that discourse, you're planted in your head, he gives you the extra mile because you're building heritage,

you're investing in business. The story of the networks won't last forever. That's the discourse. Invest in this, let's have something more solid. I'm going to be a mother. I'm going to be a mother. I'm going to be a mother. I'm going to be a mother. I'm going to be a mother. I'm going to be a mother. I'm going to be a mother.

I'm going to be a mother. I'm going to be a mother. and you think, this is a small piece of land, so you think about that. And look at the levels of manipulation that are absurd. And I really like to talk about this because there are many people who are living the same thing. And sometimes it's important to tell you, hey, I'm not a fool. And I fell. So you don't feel bad if you fell too.

The day I told him, look, I'm very stressed, I feel anxious, I can't with one more peso, oh no, but you get stressed and you stress me out, I come on July 3rd, I gave birth on July 29th, and I send him a list, don't say, but look how much my expenses were in a month. And if you start reading, Tatiana, I come and tell him, this without including my personal expenses and payroll. All of this was investments. What if the arrangement of the farm, what if this thing, what if that thing.

Instead of being worried about your gestation process. No, no, no, look at what you're seeing in the chat. I send him the list and look at what he sends me. He sends me a TikTok.

Why do you get anxious and discouraged by your economy? Why do you get stressed and worried about the debts that you still haven't paid? I will give you two proverbs for economic abundance.

I'm making it up. Here it is. I'm watching it. And look, and I say to him, I'm not saying that I spent money badly. I'm just explaining to you why I'm not saying that I wasted money. I'm just explaining why I'm stressed. Check if you've wasted money, if you're growing,

or if you're doing something, or if you have money and you're keeping solvent, or if you're investing to have fruit later and you're stressed for seasons. But I don't want to talk about these uncomfortable topics anymore. No, but wait. Let's stop at the manipulation with en la manipulación con versículo de Biblia. Tatiana, yo peleaba y me ponía alabanzas. Y sabes lo que decía? Sabes algo, perdóname. En el momento no entendí, pero creo que el Señor ya me dio sabiduría y discernimiento.

Y yo, ay, Dios lo está cambiando.? When we fight, it's sometimes the enemy's attack to break the stability, but the enemy doesn't like a relationship. And I was like, damn. And you know what else happens? A pregnant woman, even if it sounds ugly, is a fag.

Because your brain is thinking about what you're doing. About what you have to think. Totally. I mean, can you believe that?

I can't believe it.

I really can't believe it. That a month after I give birth, I'm spending that amount of money without putting in my payroll or my personal expenses. In investments. What I read impacts me, what I hear impacts me, but do you know what shocks me the most?

What?

When you talk to your doula and you listen to yourself innocently putting yourself in second place. I mean, you're aware of the way you talk to her. I mean, your message to your doula is not of anger. Your message is that I'm not doing well.

Your message is, help me to set this right, because I'm the wrong one. That's how I appreciate it. If you send me that message, I feel it as a way of, Tatiana, I'm not understanding well,

reaffirm this to me. If I tell her, I'm confused. I tell her, I feel confused, I'm going crazy. I already explained to this person that I'm 15 days pregnant and she still asks me for money. So, of course, I said, I mean, is it a matter of male logic?

Is there something that I'm not seeing, I don't understand? I mean, I said, what's happening to me? It's like, for example, I remember when I was pregnant, suddenly the person spoke to me loudly, and I started crying, and I was like, is it because I'm very sensitive? Is it because I'm pregnant? Is it because...

I mean, a lot of doubts, but do you know what that's called? Gaslighting. Yes? Because I often say, I'm a dumbass, because of the things I allowed or accepted. Sometimes they sell you reality in such a way that they repeat it over and over again, and you say, I'm the one who's wrong. That's a conspiracy. I listen to you, Aida, and I really like that you speak openly about this,

because as you mentioned, if you're going through that, you're a faggot, you've been through it. Totally, and people say, come here, you with that talk you have, with that lip, you're going to get tangled. Yes, I got tangled. And they made me doubt reality.

And I think it's important to talk about this because everyone talks about verbal violence and physical violence. But not psychological violence and physical violence. But not the ones you mentioned. But not psychological violence or economic violence. And there's a lot of that.

People say, oh, it's just that I didn't get the JETA. I confess to you the truth. I became aware that I had been a victim of psychological violence the day I went to report. Because I went to report, they almost gave me the JETA. That's what I went to report, I was almost beaten in the face. That's what I went to report, because you already report when the person is going to hit you.

And they were threatening me all the time, that you are going to know what a man is, that you are going to know what a man is. And when they came to my house, on a visit for my son, and that guy came to me to want to hit me, I was going to get beaten up. That's when I said, no, I have to report this. And the worst part of the story is, when I went out to publicly tell this on social media and I put it in the chats,

a lot of people said, oh, what would she have done to provoke him? Let's say I buy it from you. Okay, I'll buy the argument. There are women who provoke men, there are women who are rude, I'm not going to buy the argument that you can win someone over. Okay, fortunately I know how people are,

I have a chat where I can explain how the situation happened and the person gives me the reason. I didn't raise my voice, I didn't go against them. Do you know why he wanted to hit me? Because he was asking me for an economic collaboration for a situation he was living with his sister,

and I told him, the truth is, I don't have to support you because you and I are no longer a couple. So, honestly, don't count on my money for that. He went crazy. He went crazy. And there I have it. There I have the chat explicitly.

What bad thing did I tell you? Remember that day well. I just told you not to threaten me because you yelled at me, I just told you that those strong motherfuckers were going to tell me, and you were going to see what happens. And I said, what? And you repeated, the only thing I said was, don't threaten me.

And you were already coming at me. Literally. I just told you, don't threaten me. And you were already coming at me. So, fortunately, I have proof of absolutely everything. Because women don't believe us. And I'll tell you again, I went to report him because I was almost slapped in the face. Because I was afraid. Because suddenly you see me well-off today, because there are things that you already overcome, transcend, repeat, cry, cry and get out.

But at the moment when he left, I felt so insignificant. I said, this guy almost hits me in my own house. In the living room of my house, which I pay for, they almost hit me in the face. And that's how this hell was going to be, because we're always going to have a child. And that's where I reported.

And when I got to report only that they almost hit me in the face, they started doing a survey and I was crying. Has the other person ever pressured you economically? And I come and tell him, wait a minute, economic violence is not when the other person has the resources and then discredits you, belittles you, or wants to control you.

You immediately started identifying... And he tells me, no, economic violence is also when the person abuses your resources. And I...

And you go on.

Okay. And when they start doing the survey, has this ever happened to you? Has this ever happened to you? Has this ever happened to you? And I start saying, yes, yes, yes. The knot.

And I... And the psychologist tells me, you were a victim of psychological violence throughout your pregnancy. And I said, oh, and of economic violence, and I. You think that violence is being mistreated, being attacked in an obvious way, with words, with actions that are thrown at you. When I started to analyze everything, I remember that sometimes I wanted to cry because I was sensitive to hormones, to a lot of things.

And the way... I mean, if I went to the bathroom and spent a lot of time, you're crying, that hurts the baby. That's psychological violence. And you don't know, you say, oh, you're thinking about the baby's well-being. What did you do? Cry? Did you swallow everything? And you know what happened with that, that I swallowed?

I ended up in the ER three times. I ended up in the ER three times because when you swallow those emotions, that has to come out somewhere. And you end up somatizing it. I got a very hard video. And I was cleaning the gallery,

and I was removing things to evacuate, because I had a lot of guidelines here, what do I do with that? If I upload that, I have to delete it. And I started deleting, and I said, imagine, I have guidelines until such date, I don't know what, and I started laughing. And suddenly, deleting things, salió este video.

Ese día, fue pucha. Yo lloraba y lloraba y lloraba y vengo y le digo a mi mejor amiga, te quiero mostrar algo que no sé por qué me afectó tanto. Y cuando mi amiga lo vio, esta es la cara de una mujer desesperada, lonely, distressed woman. And she couldn't take it anymore.

I mean, my face, I think you look at my face today... It's not you.

No.

And seeing me like this was hard. And I remember I told a friend and he said, watch that video and repeat it so you remember where you never want to be again. You have to go back to the memories of the places you didn't want to be again. First, to remember what you felt before you fell into the hole.

Because then you recognize what your body's alerts are. Second, fell into the hole. Because then you recognize what are the alerts of your body. Second, to heal the wound. Because you have to see yourself and see yourself and see yourself. And third, also to know how your life feels today, how it felt before and feel the triple of being grateful to have left there. Because sometimes you get stuck.

Why did I fall there? No. How did I get out of there? I'm a bitch. Period. And it changes your perspective, right? Totally. Because the Aida who saw that video at another time felt different things.

Totally. To the Aida who sees it today.

Totally.

Do you feel that today? How did I get out of there? Today I feel super proud. I got out of there and I got out alive. And I got out intact. Because this is so that I would have been completely destroyed. But I didn't get out. And many times you also have to do the exercise of introspection and see things in retrospective, because you say, oh, a lot of bullshit that fell there. But when you do the exercise, you say, no, wait,

this was incredible, this felt like a note. I was super happy, I was living the dream. And you don't deny it, besides. Before I walked through hell, I was in heaven. That suddenly things have turned turned one moment to another, that's different.

That I fell into a deception, that's different. But here things were incredible. I didn't fall into the misgiving. No, no, no. I fell into the illusion and fantasy of the home that later becomes a misgiving. Do you like to remember?

Remembering is wonderful. One by one, you're going to flip these photos and you're going to tell me how you feel. And we show them to people.

Yes.

Let's see. Oh, I want to cry. I'm already a little mature to cry. Mommy Miriam, this lady.

Wonderful.

Who is? maravillosa. ¿Quién es?

Mami Miriam. Una de mis madrinas. Yo crecí en una casa con cinco adultos mayores que me criaron. Ella era una de esos adultos mayores. Sabia.

Una señora, los mejores consejos. Una mujer de la prudencia, del pensar, de analizar, de no dejarse llevar por lo emocional, tuvo un hogar durante muchos años, sostuvo un hogar también por su hijo. Ella envejeció con su marido, pero creo que también es ese She grew old with her husband, but I think it's also that kind of mirror in which one looks and says, I honor you, I honor your process, I honor what you endured, but I don't want to do that. I don't want to bear for a child.

Because in the end, she ended up suffering Alzheimer's. She was deteriorated, unrecognizable, and you say that you have to put up with it. What do you have of her? Of my mommy Miriam, I have that rage to fight for my son. Because my mother was a woman who fought for her son. I can't stand it. I can't stand it.

To bear things from no one. But yes, that strength, that will to fight for my son and for my adopted children. Because my brother and I were like his adopted children. A wonderful woman has already passed away. She died a few months ago.

And she had already left this world with her Alzheimer's. I dedicated a very nice video to her, but I was lucky enough to say goodbye to her in life. And to tell her many things. And I honored her until the last day. In life, as it has to be.

I have no regrets. Imagine that the house where I grew up was a humble house. To have pots on the floor, not to have cabinets, to have a curtain instead of doors. You know what I mean?

And I remember that when I started making money from social media, before even thinking about my apartment, I remodeled the house where I grew up for them. So I can tell you that in the last few years, a spectacular house, one of the best houses in the neighborhood, yo creci. Así que te puedo decir que en sus últimos años, una casa espectacular, de las mejores casas del barrio, que se metían las vecinas, ¡ay, están estrenando comedor!

¡Ay, están estrenando sala! ¡Ay, tienen pantalla plana! ¡Ay, mira la lámpara! Sí, mi amor.

¡Qué belleza!

Así que le di en vida absolutamente todo. I've lost absolutely everything. Oh, complicated things.

My mother.

I honor and respect her. But at a distance. My dad. A salsa dancer, absolutely spectacular. My best rumba partner. The concerts wouldn't be the same without him.

A man who learned from his mistakes, who grows every day, peaceful, absolutely peaceful, he doesn't like conflict, he doesn't like war, he always makes the decisions that lead him to avoid conflict.

Yes.

Serene, with your particular way of being, and that has taught me that love implies accepting people as they are and with their ways. My dad has his weird ways of love, but I still say he loves me.

I miss him, but he loves me. And when he sees you in difficult situations, since you say he's so peaceful, he advises you, he calls you, he doesn't meddle? He doesn't meddle. And I understood that it's not that he doesn't love me, it's that he doesn't know how to handle those things.

And it's okay, it's fine. It's also love. Totally. So, I know there are things he doesn't know how to handle. And I know that he's filled with frustration and that he has his internal palotherapy too, but I say that maybe he doesn't have the words to hold me in a moment of adversity,

but he can give me a little salsa dance that helps me fill up with strength so I can solve adversity. Ay! Roscuitas. Okay. I'm going to take a picture of you. I'm going to take a picture of you. I'm going to take a picture of you. I'm going to take a picture of you. I'm going to take a picture of you.

I'm going to take a picture of you. I'm going to take a picture of you. It's beautiful. No, it's definitely my father. It's a divine thing. It's divine, it's delicious, it's tender, it's sweet. Oh, Diego, my best friend. My soulmate. Yes.

He is my soulmate. We have always known that. We have evolved in time very much at the same time. And I think that's why, despite the years, we are still together. Five years of friendship, is one of the people I admire the most in the world. Her story is wonderful.

I also dedicate a letter to the book. Why does it move you so much? Because in this world, of so many broken people hurting others, Diego, and gave him a limo on the street. Diego escaped from his house at 12 years old because he was living in mistreatment and he's been working since that age, knitting hammocks. He had back problems for years because he was too young to knit hammocks

and he had to jump. And he knitted hammocks, sold empanadas on the street, collected scrap metal, did he did many things. He got ahead by himself, by his own effort, by his own means. And curiously, despite the hard life he had, he doesn't go through life with resentment,

or feeling that society owes him nothing. And he has become an example of that even if you are in need of love, you can still become the love that they did not give you. I love him, I admire him, I respect him. He is my comrade in battle and my soulmate, the truth. I'm going to tell you a story about my partner Batallas. Something really nice happened to me with him. He was in the process of his company growing a lot more,

and I was in my life processes. And somehow, whenever we talked on the phone, the perfect excuse not to see each other was, you know you're in your thing and I'm in mine. And it's normal, we always understood each other. My love, you're working, so am I,

how cool, but we're growing. And he told me about his company, and I was happy. Sometimes he'd call me at 4 in the morning, and I'd say, baby, what are you doing? No, matter, everyone is working on their own thing. It turns out that once a friend wrote to me and said, Hey, Jason Jimenez is looking for you. And I come and tell him, Benny, that Jason...

I was going to tell him how I told him, Benny, that son of a bitch, why is he sending me reasons? I said, let me comb your hair. I'm going to tell you, what are you doing here? Are you fighting with me so you don't call me or what the fuck? And I said, let me call you. That was in December. And then my friend tells me,

no, you're busy or it's for some business and that's why you want to do the bridge. I said, business? I'll give you call him, but then I thought, no, no, no, I'm not going to call him. I'm going to take him one day per video call and I'm going to screw his life. And I thought about that, so I was like, let's call him. But I was launching the book, I was in other projects, I was full of meetings, full of work.

So I said, right now I have to evacuate and I always had to stay for later. I never called him. And one day in the car, one of the boy's nannies says, Did you see Jason Jimenez died? And I said, I'm not going to leave anything for later. If I want to call someone today, I'll call them today.

If I want to say I love you today, I'll say it today. If I have a conversation pending with someone, let's have it now. And then, in fact, there are the tests with the tickets. My best friend and I had planned a trip to Europe three years ago. When I could, he was working. When he could, I was working. And since it involved taking out 15 days, because our trip was 15 days, 15 days from the agenda,

it was too complicated for us to get 15 days out of our schedule. So it was always like, you know I'm in this company right now, and I'm in this and that. And it was always complicated. I could travel with my dad, I could travel with my grandma, but I never got to travel with him.

I bought the tickets. Immediately. I bought the tickets the next day. You get comfortable. And I called him crying and I told him, I wouldn't forgive myself if I have unfinished business with you.

And this is a trip we have unfinished. At Jason's funeral, I was talking to his wife and she told me, we never made a family trip. And the trip we had was coincidentally the other week, in his funeral. And I said, no, you can't keep things for later.

So, at that moment, I think I understood that you give up even later, that you don't know if it will come. And when such close things happen to you, I remember that I was so upset because Jason and I always had a friendship, well, we had a very cool friendship.

And I'll tell you something, I saw a chat with him, when they wanted to put me in jail, he was there. When I had a problem with my mother from Venezuela, he helped me in some ways. And he always appeared in complex moments. What's up? What do you need?

Here I am. Here I am. And he would always say, you know I'm your friend, and I'm a real gonorrhea. And I would say, yes.

So, when that happened, I said, I can't let anything stay for later. And I went with my best friend to Europe. How did you spend it? Incredible. One of the best memories of my life. I had a wonderful time.

On the fourth day I missed my son and he gave me guava. And I was like, my God, and I felt like a bad mother. I said, I abandoned my son, how am I going to leave him lying around, so small, I don't know what. He got the stick. The stick therapy. I was like, I don't know what, but I was like, I don't know what, but I was like, I don't know what, but I was like, I don't know what, but I was like, I don't know what, but I was like, I don't know what, but I was like, I don't know what, but I was like, I don't know what, but I was like, I don't know what, but I was like, I don't know what, but I was like, I don't know what, but I was like, no one fucked with you, people can't criticize you. And I was like, but that's not what people criticize me for.

I'm not criticizing myself. And I really needed that trip, I needed that space, I needed that moment with me and my friend to restore and renew strength. And I arrived with a different energy, with many things resolved, and I said, I needed this. So vital that those spaces with friends, right?

Totally. They are healing. And so vital that remembering that life is a little moment. It's a little while. Life is a little while and you can't leave things for later. Things, for example, that...

Things that give me applause. Imagine, my grandmother once told me, Oh, no granddaughter, I haven't even released that passport yet. And I was like, what? Grandma, you have a passport for like 10 years, you've never been abroad.

Well, once I went to visit your mom in Venezuela, I don't know what, but until then... And I was like, what? We were going to Punta Cana the next week. In a week. Packed! Packed. We were going to Punta Cana in a week. We got to the hotel.

And my grandmother said, this must be very expensive. No, how are you spending your money on this? No, grandma, you deserve it. We had such a great time. Nowadays, my grandmother suffers from her knees.

Her mobility is reduced. She couldn't do that trip. Can you imagine if I hadn't done it? No, shut up. No, no, no, you can't do it for later. You have to do things when you can.

It's true.

And when you want them from the bottom of your heart. You don't know what can happen to you. I'll tell you something, all my friends, surely after Jason's death, they'll say, but you're in good health. They detected something in you. Of course, because I called everyone, like, I want you to know that I love you.

The cactus turned into a salt for five days. I want you to know that I love you, I want you to know that you are important to me, I thank you for this and that. People were like, you see, you're fine. Yes, yes, really.

I called a very important person in my life to tell her, I want you to know that I thank you deeply for this and this and this that you left in my life, because maybe you don't know it, but it has been very important to me. And yes, the truth is that I have... I can tell you today that I'm already up to date.

I already have my plans for the day. How valuable that is. You give everything for nothing.

How are you doing with those weird questions?

Oh, I love them. I love questions. What is the weirdest or most embarrassing thing you've asked Chad GPT? What if we ask my Chad GPT?

Ask him, he's not a good person. If something embarrassing comes up,

if something embarrassing comes up, what is the weirdest or most embarrassing thing I've asked you? Let's see what ChatGPT says. I'm going to answer you clearly. There's nothing really embarrassing in what you've asked me. Your questions almost always fall into four very clear categories. History and culture.

Deep emotional processes. Strategy and power. And artistic creation. And you have deep conversations with Chad. If I had to choose the strangest thing, in the curious, not embarrassing sense,

I would say that it was two types of questions. You're going to shit yourself laughing with this. When you wanted to understand the mind of criminals because you are intrigued by the relationship between intelligence, power and crime.

I know I know!

And he says, most questions are utilitarian.

Yes.

The most unusual thing about your questions is not the content, but the depth. I mean... What is the relationship between power and money? What symbols do certain works of art hide?

Okay...

That's not embarrassing anymore. Well... But you give deep talks, even with chat GPT. I mean, you comb it, you braid it. But I'm struck by criminal mentalities, what's behind a crime, what seduces people, the power of money, what's more important, the power of money.

That captivates me a lot. Which super famous has kicked your ass on DMs? The truth, the truth, the truth, I'm not here to embarrass anyone. If you're very famous, kick my ass, because no one's going to tweet it here.

There they go, in a row, sister.

My love, if you're very famous, remember this moment when no one was tweeting anything.

And that's it.

Keep throwing me, don't worry.

What was your worst date? I remember this moment when I didn't give out tickets to anyone. And that's it. Keep throwing me, don't worry.

What was your worst date?

You know, Alba, I feel like I erase the bad. I mean, I don't remember, I forget everything. Especially if I had a horrible date. What do you think was my worst date? I love it because she comes with you and you make faces. Ah, the awkward date. Oh, yes. I remember now.

I had a date once with a couple, we were a couple, but it was like a date to revive the flame of passion, because it was like, I feel like this is dying, and in that date I said, this is going to shit, that is, there were so many uncomfortable silences and I said, no, dear, my love, this is going to be with exorcism.

But it served to identify that it was not there.

Yes. What has been the worst shame you have had in public? Oh, how strong, let's see I think about it so many times.

In my long term experience.

My love, the worst shame I've ever faced in public has been defending a man. Defending a man, saying he was the man of my life, and then suddenly, take your scam. Not even Tinder's scammer dared to do that. Cheers to that shame! Have you ever used your fame to get something every day?

Today, the last time was this afternoon. Right now, before I got here. Right now. I feel like it's not that you use it directly, but it happens. And now, to tell you, I feel super uncomfortable when those things happen.

Zero.

Zero, but just like my fame makes me get fucked, it's good that it works for me.

Let's suck the others.

Of course. Before, I felt guilty. Before, I was like, no, what are other people going to think? What are they going to think? Then I say, my love, I'm not God. If God wanted me to be in this position of privilege in life, who am I to not let you pass me first?

Don't worry.

Who am I to not let you pass me?

No, my love, I don't feel guilty about that anymore.

But come on, that's from the...

You don't know who I am. Oh, no. Not because people already know who I am. Oh! ¿Qué es lo más tóxico que has hecho por amor? Yo no he sido tóxica. La verdad, tóxica, me han toxiqueado, sí. ¿Ah, sí? Sí, a mí sí. Ay, me han hecho unas toxicidades, pero así algo tóxico que yo haya hecho.

No realmente tóxico, tóxico... Ah, bueno, espérate. ¿Perseguir? No, perseguir no. with a partner of mine who was doing it for me. And I saw the chat. And from then on, I was waiting for him to fall asleep, but after a week, to see if he had already cut the situation or not.

Oh, my God.

And that lasted three days until the fourth day, and I said, come here. I'm insomnia, because of this bastard, and not my love. The truth is, if you're going to do it, at least don't take my sleep away. Let me sleep.

Yes.

What is your biggest red flag that you gave too much? I love too much. I screw people up, really. I want to believe that I healed them, but if I haven't healed them, they're still my red flag. Yes, I screw people up.

I let them fall back on me. And I'm super... How would you say that? Not that I help, but... Yes, my love, I end up making people invalids. So you feel like you have that Salvador spirit activated? I had that Salvador spirit activated,

but the thing is that I went beyond that. I didn't know how to set limits, so when people ask me, and ask me, and ask me, and ask me, I say, it's my fault that I feel uncomfortable that they're asking me so much, and it's like, it's great that you feel uncomfortable

that they ask you so much, you know? Set a limit and run away. Society made a stereotype of what a lady is. And a lady is the prudent one, the one who keeps quiet, the one who is not problematic, because for society a problematic woman is the one who is not ready to wash the face of any man. My love, I am not a lady. I am not a lady, I am not a good woman. Look at what happens to you when you are a good woman.

What gives you the experience. Totally. The blows of life. Totally. In fact, there was a debate and a conversation on social media because I went out to defend La Blanquita, that this couple of influencers is separating, and I was saying, like, fight for the house.

And someone put and tagged me, arguing and saying, that the man's thing is the man's thing, everyone's thing is everyone's thing, a truly empowered woman is not fighting what is right for her, nor does she want to take anything away from anyone, but does her own thing.

And I'm going to tell you something and I'll take advantage of the space. This is not to convince the one who thinks differently. This is to reaffirm to people who have been in positions like the ones I was, things that are deep in their heart, but that suddenly they don't find the strength to fight for that argument. The day that one can decide to split 50-50, a pregnancy,

then I am in favor of that what is his is his and what is mine is mine. Because in the stage in which a woman is gestating and after that maternating, productivity drops and it's extremely unfair that you are in a relationship with a man and that things are distributed equally, and that is half of the expenses for you, half of the expenses for me, and therefore mine is mine and yours is yours when my productive stage is going down.

So, of course, the man, while the woman is pregnant, works and produces, and the woman who does, gestates. The relationship ends, the woman is screwed, thinking about all the productive time she wasted gestating. Did the man help her take care of the pregnancy? Did the man put the baby for four and a half months to split the pregnancy 50-50. So, today, if you are listening to me, and you are in a relationship with a person, under the philosophy of, what is yours is yours and what is mine is mine, right, my love?

The day you can split the pregnancy, then what is yours is yours and what is mine is mine. But, as I am lowering my productive stage, the day I finish with you, I'm going to be screwed and on the tables. So you fight half of your own because if the law contemplates it for something, it is. So I do not agree with that story. No, and it is that also, said the voice of experience, that is, you are not talking from the throat. I was already a good woman, Tatiana. I was already the woman who supports, I was already the woman who helps you in your difficult processes, I was already the woman who the want equality. There is no equality without equity. And equity is giving everyone the

resources necessary to be in the same position. And that means that, oh no, it's that we work, then you work and I work. Yes, pregnant. I have the same productive stage as you. I will be able to build heritage just like you. If here we are distributing work, we have to distribute ourselves. You are producing, generating income for the home and I am giving life to distribuirse, tú estás produciendo, generando ingresos para el hogar y yo estoy dando vida a nuestra descendencia. No, eso sí es igualitario, eso sí es equidad, eso sí es dividirnos las cosas. ¿Te cansaste de ser buena mujer? Me cansé de ser pendeja, porque yo siento

que en el fondo ser buena implica entregar de corazón, dar cosas lindas, dar la bondad It means giving with your heart, giving beautiful things, giving the goodness of what you are. But when that goodness is transgressing what you give to yourself, that's bullshit. I'm tired of being a fool. What's the good, the tasty, and the not so good thing about being Aida? Well, the good thing about being Aida,

the respect and admiration that people feel for me, how they express themselves about my intelligence, what I've built, that's amazing. I mean, I like public admiration, obviously. The benefits of fame, how to get to a place and not have to wait in line, the preferential treatment they give you for being who you are, that's incredible. The wonderful son I have, that's something I say, my God.

No, I'm already tasty.

I mean, that's a t a fan of the Mexican food. I love Mexican food, I love Mexican food. I love Mexican food, I love Mexican food. I love Mexican food, I love Mexican food. I love Mexican food, I love Mexican food. And from the maluco that you say, eating maluco is also tasty, to the ultra spectacular potato that you come here.

So those are cool things. Money, obviously, people satanize that a lot, but money is delicious. It's not an end, but it's an incredible medium. How nice it is to be with friends, sitting on a bench, drinking beer. Yes, but how nice it is to be able to take a friend to drink aperol there in Europe. So, things as they are.

Beautiful things, which evidently my life is exposed to and will be criticized by a lot of people. That you can't afford to give yourself your taco publicly, because automatically you are hooked as a husband, you can't do it anymore, suddenly, let's go. Let's go, Juan.

But do you do it like that?

No, I have celibacy. Oh yeah? Since when? Three months ago. But according to life, everyone does. No, according to people. Last week I was jumping on a pole. In fact, according to people, yesterday I was jumping on a pole,

this morning I woke up jumping on a pole, as I normally do, and tonight I'm going to jump on a pole. No, I've been in celibacy for three months, really, because I'm focused on my projects. I don't want to know anything about men, I really don't want to know anything about men. So I'm calm, and I feel much better. I feel that the energy is different,

my projects flow differently, I love it. But yes, that's the issue with social media, you just give up. And the next day, I look at myself in the mirror and I'm like, I'm all over the gossip page.

And I was like, oh no.

And besides, it happened to me once with a friend, I went to the movies, just a friend. And that day I wanted to play the schoolgirls who were at the movies.

Play the house.

Friend and that's it.

And the next day, boom, photo. And I was like, oh no. That's when I would have eaten it. At least so they could talk to me. So if they were going to speculate, yes. Don't you feel that that scares men?

So much exposure. I swore that the exposure scared them. But there are some that before you have to take care of first. They love the exhibition and they say, hmm, you liked it. You loved it like the sea, that it's incandescent.

What conquers you? Oh, before, any shit. Until how many hours ago? Until a few hours ago, any son of a bitch. mierda. Hasta hace cuantas horas? Hasta hace horas cualquier hijo de puta. Cualquier porquería. No mentira. Es que sabes algo, esos desgraciados estafadores emocionales han sabido entrarme porque es que ellos saben lo que a uno le mata desde el principio. Me derrite un hombre me because they know what you kill from the beginning. I melt a mature man that contains you emotionally, that is special, that is detailed, that is splendid, like all the same fucking men in the first three months.

That melts me, what all men are in the first three months. Look, in the first three months, all men are emotionally mature, they have affective responsibilities, they are special. There are men here and you have them. They know how they are. These foresters.

They are special, detailed. My love, how are you? How do you wake up? I call you on video calls 25 times a day. I'm super aware of you. You already ate, what'm sending you." Divine at first. And then it's when you start to see and you go,

but this is the festival of the junk. I'm going to say something, this is super funable, fun me three on three if you want. In fact, if you are funing me, you have a person next to me who was funing me and the neighbor is looking out the door, go to the neighbor's, so that he can also fuck me. But I had a year that I fell in love three times.

And the three relationships lasted me about three months, three months, and the other two. Spectacular. The best year of my life. I loved it intensely, I loved it, I felt something, an emotion, and when I started to smell like junk, bye!

I left, Rogelio. You're gone, we're gone, we're gone, everything's fantastic. The three best relationships I remember in my life were those three. The season of the conquest, and bye! Of course, the season in which I didn't smell a thing. The season in which I still wonder,

did those people fart? Fantastic. You didn't know their flaws, right? I didn't know your shadow, your flaws, nor did you know me. Those men talk wonders about me. They say I'm fantastic, I'm spectacular.

Obviously, Rogelio. Because we don't get to see the bad in you.

Aida, what are you going to do when you fall in love again?

My love, the truth? Yes. Number one, not't show it publicly.

There it is, it's getting recorded.

But you know what the problem is? People come and say, who makes you public? There are some that I don't even make public.

They publish it themselves.

Not even, people, gossip pages. That's where I say, look, I tell you something, I'm going to keep my mouth shut, but you keep your tongue shut. Because they really start, I mean, some impressive things.

So, I, the truth is...

Aida, looking at my eyes...

I don't want to expose any man on social media, number one. Number two, I get to see the first Red Flag, and then Usain Bolt is going to be small for me. The spike I'm going to put in. I run. Really. Look, not even Forrest Gump.

I get to see him in the first red flag, not even Forrest Gump. Don't let me be carried away by any social pressure. If I'm meeting someone, they found out for X or Y reason, and they come and say, no, I see your red flag and I'm leaving,

and people come and say, oh, it doesn't last, the next question. It doesn't last, the next question. Right now, what I'm telling you, I don't want to know anything about men, and I have a theory today.

And it is, if I stay alone and solve many internal issues, maybe I'll meet a man who is settled. Maybe. But right now I don't want to know anything about men. Thank you very much.

Would you accept a man with children? Yes, of course. Obviously, because I'm a woman with children. In fact, even before having children, I had already accepted a man with children. Yes, I would accept a man with children without any problem. Yours, mine and ours. From the public ex-boyfriends list,

which one do you have a good relationship with? With everyone, practically. Really, yes. People always think I end up bad with people. And it's like, no, my love. First of all, I haven't fucked everyone.

Because people suddenly see two people I've fucked and say, no, she's just that she's funny. Love, two are like 1% of the boyfriends. Let me tell you something. About a week ago, my school boyfriend called me.

Yes.

My love, how are you? I love you, I adore you. And I wanted to go out that day and record him on screen and say, even my school boyfriend loves me.

You're capable.

Who is the problem? I was like, I'm going to record a screen recording and say, even my school boyfriend loves me. You're capable. Who is the problem? She or us? You?

Really.

I was asking her, Samuelito, who is the problem?

She or us?

No.

Oh no.

Really, look, she called me, seriously, she called me and said, I love you so much, I'm so happy about everything that's happening to you, I'm always super aware of you, your son is divine, I don't know what.

And we were recording on the screen.

And I, look, please record this video here to put it on my test bench, the prosecution doesn't have as many compiled evidence as I do. I'm very clear about that. No, my love, I'm Aida Proebas. They tell me to take their tests, because really... Let's do an exercise.

You're going to imagine that you have a blender. And in that blender you're going to put a piece of your ex-boyfriends. Oh, I love it. Not complete. And you're going to tell me which parts of each ex-boyfriend you're going to put in there to build... The perfect man. I love it. I'm fascinated. Well, this is interesting.

I would put that sense of gentlemanliness, guajiro, of my first boyfriend, Tricky. Jorge Miguel, I send you a greeting wherever you are, if you have a partner. Success in your relationship, my love. The special and detailed thing about Samuelito, a boyfriend I had, a boyfriend and such, he was super special and detailed. He was very much like, I bring you chocolates, what is this, that, if you like it, your flowers, your stuff,

your whole set, that's what I'd put in. Of one that I can't say. Oh, please!

No, why?

I'd put in one, that sexy, malandrous skin. Okay. That sexy, all malandrous, if you know what I mean. You like malandrous? That's the sex appeal of a rascal. That's the sex appeal of a rascal.

You like the rascal.

That rascal, yes, I would put that. That sex appeal of a rascal. Give us some clues. No, my love, I don't want to. I would put that rascal sex appeal. Like those rascal pilotes.

Those conversations after making love, naughty.

Yes.

That way of conquering everything, all naughty, the crazy things, like when you're very drunk, intensely. Wes's sense of humor would be very forced. I mean, yes! Yes, he has a very funny sense of humor. Once I remember we were lying in bed

and he says, I've always been a fan of Michael Jackson. And I said, yes, I know. In fact, look at this step I know. And he grabs YouTube and puts a Michael Jackson thing

and out of nowhere, he stops dancing with Michael Jackson. And I said, look, I don't want to imagine it. I shit my pants laughing like crazy. I feel like we played in a very childish way. We were like a couple of kids playing. So that sense of humor and that childish way of being, but cool. I put it in.

Let's see... Who else? I can't imagine you not doing a recount. Yes, I think I would include that. That. Jorge Miguel's intellectuality. A super intelligent man, the guy is a lawyer. So, some conversations that I can't even tell you about.

It was very interesting to talk to him.

Yes.

The physique.

Body.

Give me body, Aida, por favor. Ya me acordé un físico.

Dame cara y dame cuerpo.

Ay, no es que si te doy cara. Si te doy cara, nos metemos en problemas. Tengo el físico de alguien que uno dice, uff, estabas bueno, condenado.

Estabas pero en tu punto, desgraciado. You were good, you were doomed.

You were at your worst, you bastard.

Oh, I'm remembering things here. Well, no, all this time it was worse, you know, girls. I'm thinking here, who was I complaining about? What was I complaining about? Sentimental? No, my love. Yes, maybe I had my downfalls, but I'm remembering my past with such passion. You know what? Do you remember I told you I fell in love with three girls in one year?

Yes! Let's put all three of them and it's perfect. Really. Let's put all three of them and it was perfect. I wanted to give them names. What were the names? You say and I'll answer. I'm not going to lie, I was really looking forward to throwing names at you.

What names? You tell me if you answered. Who's that?

No.

Nothing?

No, my love. Is he not on the list? No, my love. No, my doll.

Let's clarify that. Nothing?

No.

Zero?

No, we're talking about my boyfriends. No, my love, I'm not going to pay the NADs guidelines. And the NADs guidelines are expensive. Tatiana, if a man wants guidelines, he has to pay the NADs guidelines. You do me a favor, I'm not going to put any guidelines here. Or you contact me, look, here it was mentioned to you, you pay the guidelines, right, my love?

So, out of the blender.

And besides, we're talking about boyfriends. No, please. Ok, you took that juice, you put it together, you filled the blender, and you believe that man exists. Oh, love, it's not that I believe, it's that I want to believe. I want to, I swear, es que quiero creer. Quiero, te lo juro, yo quiero tener fe. Yo quiero tener la fe que tiene la gente que invierte en las criptomonedas esas que promocionan los influencers. Quiero tener esa fe.

Ay Dios, si me has hecho tirar risa el día de hoy.

Cuando tú me dijiste eso, será que existe it was real. It gave me vaginal depression. What do you need to believe in love again? I'm going to tell you the truth. I'm going to be very open and very honest. Today, Aida doesn't believe in relationships. I hope someone changes their mind.

I hope I go on a podcast in a year saying, no one had loved me this way. Aida, you don't need a year for that. Three months. Past tomorrow. The best thing is that you know it.

No, but since I've changed, I want to believe. I want to believe, Lord, that you've changed me. But, I mean, I'll tell you the truth. Today, Aida doesn't believe in relationships. I mean, I'm honest with that. But not even so much from the wound,

but there is already a rational part in me that feels that women like me don't come into this world to be in a relationship. Because I'm very free, I'm very mine, I'm very... Yes, I mean, when I'm single,

I have such a great time. And suddenly being in a relationship involves so many things. If the relationship is complicated, imagine the relationship between a couple. Besides, let's say you didn't find a junkie. Let's say I'm the only one who's unlucky enough to find a junkie. We don't find a human being.

Yes. As human as all of us. You have to learn to communicate with that person. You have to learn to know the way he communicates. You have to build dynamics that are compatible, yours with mine, yours alone with mine alone, yours with my friends and mine with yours. I'm going to be able to do it. I'm going to be able to do it. I'm going to be able to do it. I'm going to be able to do it. I'm going to be able to do it.

I'm going to be able to do it. I'm going to be able to do it. I'm going to be able to do it. I'm going to be And that's it. And if we do one thing, and if we go back to this, you give me pee, I give you bread,

you go home, I go to mine. And eventually, if there is a moment when you miss it, like in those moments of loneliness, when you say, I want to have a relationship, let's play that we are dating.

But only later.

Let's play. Let's go to the movies, let's hold hands. In fact, if you want, one day I'll go to your family's house. You introduce me, we talk, I share with your grandmother.

Do you understand me? That the next week she won't remember who I am. Let's play. But I'm telling you the truth. I don't believe in relationships anymore, but they are really exhausting. They are something you give and give and give and give.

Oh no. I listen to you. I know there are reasons for you to think that way. But deep down in my heart I feel that you're going to fall in love again. Obviously I'm going to fall in love again. I know I'm going to fall in love again, ¿Qué te hace volver a enamorar? Obvio me va a volver a enamorar, yo sé que me va a volver a enamorar,

solo que en este punto de mi vida como que en verdad no le tengo fe a las relaciones, siento que son muy sufridas, que hay que construir mucho, o sea, mis relaciones más felices han sido las más cortas, en la etapa del enamoramiento que todo es fantástico, todo es perfecto, maravilloso pero la convivencia dura el temperamento de la otra persona sus defectos con los tuyos o sea no es una relación es compleja en algún momento pensaste en matrimonio o lo soñaste si yo me soñaba con un matrimonio o sea yo

me soñé matrimonio me soñé todo la familia convencional patria honor y I dreamed of everything, the conventional family, honor and monogamy, I mean... And if you get the chance to knock on your door, of marriage? Let's see, if it's a person that I say is my accomplice, my partner, my partner, that apart from the romantic theme, I mean, one says really like I enjoy life with you and I'm super happy, but you make my life happier, I mean, if you say that you really enjoy life with me and I'm super happy, but you make my life happier, I'll go.

I'll listen to you and everything you want. But... If not, I mean, I'm not dreaming about it today. Maybe it's a broken AIDA, but I'm not dreaming about it anymore. I'm not excited. Like, seeing myself dressed in white...

How old are you?

26. And you've had a long journey.

Yes.

But it's also what you ask for in life. Did you dream about all this you have today? No. I was less ambitious, to be honest. I think that suddenly the fact that my mom had a very good economic position made me somehow not be dazzled by the

issue of luxuries or say is that when I grow up I want this because I had my time of scarcity as until 12 that I lived where my godmother and all the thing and suddenly a boom that my mom started to do super well so somehow it is, there were things that I didn't dream of, because I had already had them, and maybe I wanted other things, more from an emotional point of view, from an affective point of view, so I wasn't that ambitious.

But then I started to make money, I liked it, money liked me.

A mutual love.

A mutual love, and here we are, my most stable relationship. Something you regret? Many things, but something curious happens to me, and it's that when I regret something, I would like to turn back time and not do it, but keeping the learning of the moment, and I say, that's unfair. So in that sense, it's complicated to say I regret something, because I've learned everything. What are we going to expect from Aida this 2026? momento y digo eso es injusto entonces en ese sentido complicado decir me arrepiento de algo porque es que de todo he aprendido. ¿Qué vamos a esperar de

Aida este 2026? Romperla horrible, espantosamente. Como empresaria por ejemplo abrí discoteca. A ver, saqué mi libro a finales de diciembre y rompí horrible enero con eso entonces saqué the book, the e-book, I opened a disco, I started a burger business, I'm already working on the physical version of the book. I don't know when this will come out, but maybe when it does,

you'll find surprises, of an incredible thing that's going to happen. So this 2026 is a lot of projects and I think it's about receiving the rewards of so much pain and so much learning. It's like putting them into practice and picking up fruits.

When your son grows up and has that absolute awareness of the mother you are, what would you like him to say about you? First of all, to say, my mom is such a hard-working woman, that I have to be just as hard-working as her.

That he says, she is a very firm woman for the things she does, with a sharp character, but with so much love and warmth when it comes to closing the doors of the house. I want you to say that. I want you to say that. That they just ask you and your mom, oh, what loves me is that woman, first. What loves me is that woman, what works.

And be an example of resilience, of standing up despite facing life with firmness, without allowing that firmness to make you cold or cruel or insensitive. When you go through all the facets, you have shown us the Aida, and Shronika, you have shown us the Aida moved, you have shown us the Aida that feels compassion. Also, that part impacted me a lot. You You showed us the Aida of the tests. Which one of those is your favorite? This is very curious.

My favorite Aida has also been the one that, at certain moments in my life, has been an Aida that I have hated. My favorite AIDA is the compassionate AIDA, but at the same time it has been the AIDA that I have hated because they have used it as a tool to hurt me and hurt me. But the other day in the shower I made peace with that AIDA. That's why today it is my favorite because we reconciled. My favorite is the compassionate AIDA because just as it has been the tool

through which I have been hurt, it has also been the portal of blessings. If I were not the devoted and kind woman that I am, I would not have the wonderful partners that I have today. Being confident, being noble, and being devoted has been a tool for the wrong people to hurt me,

but also the channel through which God has blessed me a lot. That's my favorite idea. What moves you when you think of her? That innocence of believing that everyone has her ethics, that everyone works with the same love and the same passion, that everyone has kindness.

That moves me about her. Today, I can laugh about the things that happened to me. I can tell them without pain. I can even not have a knot in my throat when I say many things. But it's because it happened, I overcame it and I integrated learning. But I know that there are many people who surely saw the chapter and say,

Oh, you don't know the pain I'm in, what I've been through, and they're still in the part where one is reneging on pain and is living that complicated process. Don't worry, you're going to get out of there, I'm telling you, really. A few months ago I was telling you, I was really depressed a few months ago, I was beating myself up, I was questioning why I had allowed so many things in my life, regretting many others.

Today I enjoyed life again, today the simplest fills me, today I feel deeply fortunate, blessed and privileged. Today I truly love every pain that has brought me to be the woman that I am. But because I have already processed the learning. So if you are just processing the learning, don't worry. Just shake that shit a little bit more. It will come out of there.

Aida, thank you. Thank you for the lessons, for the lecture, for the laughter. You gave us laughter to the point of throwing it up to the ceiling. You can't imagine. We enjoyed it, but above all we learned. And obviously I feel a transformation on your part. Thank you for opening up in such a genuine, honest way.

But please... Say it. And it's that if at some point you try, you just try to go back to that place where you were broken, that place that hurt you so much, check those videos and remember where you came from.

Thank you.

And thank you for watching us, for listening to us. I hope it helps you. I think all this is summarized in one sentence. Aida, you can do it. This space creates real processes. That's why we work with Celia, a well-being platform specialized

in online psychological support. Because asking for help is also an act of self-love, a step of brave courage to be better. I'm Tatiana Franco and this is Vos Podes, El Podcast. I'm Tatiana Franco and this is Vos Podes, El Podcast.

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