Dipika Kakar Ibrahim: Stronger Than Ever

My dad has always been a soldier. So I thought that whatever job I do, I want to go in the army. I travelled in the jet airways. I decided from there that I want to become an air hostess. We used to take out trolleys. In breakfast, separately.

In dinner, separately. In snacks, separately. We used to take out the dessert trolleys. There is an economy. In that, we used to service hot tea and coffee. We are scared of the flight. My cancer was only in the tumour. I had to cut off 22% of my tumour. Those who have seen my reports and asked how did this happen to you,

we don't have an answer.

So how did you know? Did you have any pain? I had a gallbladder pain. I had pancreatitis twice. I had a lot of pain and this time it was both sides. If you are meeting me and saying, Simar, I feel very proud. It was going on for 4-5 years, right? 6 years.

I became a wife, a mother, then a fly. And I went to the netherworld. I became a goddess.

How are you, Deepika ji? First of all, welcome to our podcast. First, let me tell you that a new brand,

one of them has come, DK. Label DK has come.

Label DK. Label DK. The owner is here today. And the owner has said that when she comes next time, she will send me a dress. A little bigger than your stomach.

A little bigger than my stomach. Absolutely. We will customize it as you like and send it to you. Deepika, I have always seen you on TV. You look very Indian and very homey I feel that every family should have a mother, sister, sister Who takes care of everyone

How do you manage all this? I think you don't have to do anything Because you identified me right I am like this If your personality is like that You don't have to take effort

I am very homey When I used shoot, I packed up and went straight home. I didn't want to go anywhere else. I wanted to go home and shop for my family. I wanted to go back to my old school lifestyle. I have a similar personality. I like to stay the same way.

So, I didn't have to make any effort.

I think it just gives me happiness. You don't have to make any effort when you have to go to the party everyday. You have to club everyday.

Don't ask.

I have never seen you and Shoaib bhai leaving the party. I think it's the same. Because we both have a habit of packing up and going home to spend quality time with our family. If we are given an option to go out for a party or to sit in the carpet, have a cup of tea and chat in the dim light, then we prefer this.

Wow!

I think because, and now it seems more that we are all running a lot in life.

You are right.

So, it's very important to stop and collect these moments.

Agreed. Agreed. And when you watch your vlogs, we see that there is a party and food.

Yes, absolutely.

And then food will be prepared. And we have also come to your house once.

Yes. We came on Eid. We came on Eid, during the time of Nachbal Yeh.

So, the food we ate then, and then we kept watching your vlogs, so we understood that today biryani is being made, this is being made, that is being made. That is right, in the real sense, that is the party.

Yes, absolutely. In fact, yesterday I... So, since my surgery, Abhishek Shoaib doesn't let me go to the kitchen. I have a strict warning that you won't do anything tiring. So, when Niku and Dharam Dada have a holiday, they were separated, so I go in. So, yesterday I tried the new Chicken Pulao. Wow!

It was very good. Did you make it? No, I didn't make it yet. Because I was trying. If I mess up, I'll make it again. Wow, you're so smart. You put the right things in the vlog. Not the wrong ones. No, I put my baby in it too. All my viewers know that if I'm cooking milk or preparing tea,

it has to fall. I don't know why. I mean, I'll stand or not, I won't move from here today. But the minute I shift, it boils. So, it's with me. My kitchen is the messiest. And now I accept it very openly that yes, I'm very...

But the kitchen should be messy. I mean, where a person is working, cooking.

Exactly, Harsh.

It should be.

It's a lot.

100%. It should be.

Because when he goes, the bathroom I don't like it You must be closing the fridge He forgets to close the fridge after taking out the stuff I will never go to his house if he keeps on asking me to do the same

How will you close it if he asks you to do it?

It's not a toilet How can I close it? Thank God the fridge is good He starts calling me after a while Yes, he gets to know I never used to leave my child with the help of this

I used to keep the child in the drawer or in the fridge He doesn't know anything He can do anything I will never leave my second child with the help of this Where did I keep it? In the cupboard?

I took out my shirt and the child is inside

No, no. Now, there is a perception that husbands are a little carefree. Yes, they are. And I am a little over-the-top. I mean, I am a little… I live in my own world, in my own work.

So, I forget a lot of useful things. Sometimes, it happens that I leave the house and leave the keys inside. These things are big.

This happens with us too.

Yes, this happens with us too.

It happens every week. It's the same group. But I'm the big one.

What?

Oh my God!

What are you saying?

Bharti reminds me of those females who work in our channels. Like we work in Colors or Sony. So, the females who work there are very particular.

Oh, really?

If you want to make people laugh, you have to do this or that. So, it's like that. At home, I mean... What should I tell you? What happens is...

Our podcast is also like that.

I'll complain about it. I know. When we sit on the bed, there is a sheet on the bed. Now if we sit and lean on it, the sheet will be a little bit and it will be a little bit untidy. And wherever we are, be it in the hotel, at home, anywhere.

I would have liked a tight bed. But if you sit and sleep, then there is no need. I think I should get out of here

These messy people have come together

I agree She said that you have thorns on your bum I keep telling her this, even about Gola I have thorns on both my father and son's backs I have a headache When they get up, they get up with their sheets like this

And I keep scratching

Do you know what she does? She deliberately asks for a big bed sheet and ties knots around it. There are knots all around, right?

Which make it tight. Yes, that's the correct way to lay it.

And it shouldn't move. It shouldn't move.

All these things.

All these things are in everyone's back. These are the same things.

When they get up, they gather their bed sheets and get up. It's been a long time. This is OCD, Bharti. Get it checked. You are such that Shoaib is like that. Your stuff should be in one place. Shoaib has his stuff in one place. I mean, I am famous that I… They say, I have spread my business. If I have it all together, I won't get my stuff.

Bharti is in shock. He is going the other way. It's the opposite. It's like I'm doing your work. No, no. Sometimes I set the cupboard. I open it and say, Oh, man! What have you done? He says, set it and do it.

You won't get it now.

What I do is,

I put the 5 T-shirts I have to wear in the pocket. So that whenever you have to wear one of the 5,

you can take it out of the corner. I use the hangers that are in front of me. I use whatever is there. Anyway, I have money at home. She's the first girl I've seen who looks like a boy.

Long lost.

Sister, brother, we are...

She's an old sister. She's from the previous life.

When we saw you in the dance battle, we did that season together. I used to tell Harsh and our choreographer that this is the most difficult couple.

The most studious couple.

Really. They are very respectable. Hello, hello. They are very sophisticated. They are very cute. They are the same.

They are the same. They are married.

They are fair and clean.

The most same couple. The white and shiny couple. The cleanest couple.

The cleanest couple. It feels like, we see our hair in sweat. When they came, they were so clean. Hello, hello.

Did you do your cut to cut rehearsals?

No, I was there the whole day. So, Shoaib was doing the show. So, Shoaib used to do show at that time. So, Shoaib used to do a complete Mumbai Darshan those days. Meera Road, leaving the house in the morning, going to shoot in Pawai set, then after the pack-up, coming for the rehearsal,

and then returning.

So, I used to leave in the morning. We used to decide our choreography there. When Shoaib used to come, I used to rest in the office room. What? I thought you both came together.

You guys were hardworking.

No, but everyone was hardworking.

No, no, everyone wasn't. We ate so many bread and omelettes.

We didn't stay hungry. They used to say,

Cut to cut, you came and left in your car.

Like this. Really. And we wanted them to win. Sorry, Divyanka.

Divyanka and Vivek. I don't know why, but I was 99% sure that they would win. I thought something would happen in the last moment. Sometimes you can't do it, or it happens. But you know, all these reality shows, we all, even after doing it, if we see a season, we will pass our judgments very judgementally.

But having a part of it and going forward week by week, it is very stressful. It's not a cakewalk, a new topic for every week, we all get mentally exhausted.

For that matter, such shows are still easy. The one you did, Bigg Boss.

Oh!

And you won.

Everyone does Bigg Boss. Winning is a big deal.

Yes.

It's a big deal.

Winning is easy. A girl who is a domestic, in a cage,

where there are all kinds of animals?

But you know what, what you are saying is my strength. This is my strong point because I am very content with what I have. I don't have any insecurity. I am not craving anything in life Alhamdulillah, I have a home, husband, child, family We are all together We were together then and now I have in-laws, parents, husband

I am there for you This is a big security in life. At any stage of life, you say, financial problem is there or not. Health is good or bad. If you have this security, then you are very...

Satisfaction is very important.

Exactly. You are very content in your actions, in your... whatever you are delivering. So, this being domestic, if an outsider comes and says something to me, of course, I feel bad. We're humans. But it's not like,

I've left the world.

Yes, it's fine.

But when you went to Bigg Boss, after staying there for a while, did you feel, why did I come? Did you ever feel that? No, why didn't I feel that? Honestly, I won't lie. Because when I get into something, I think about the future. When I was offered Big Boss for the first time,

the first question I was asked was, why are you getting nervous? Because I had been refusing for four years. Really? Then I went. I had been refusing for three years.

In the fourth year, I said, okay, now let's do it. So, I said, my only thing is, my communication with Shoaib will break. You got married recently, right? And I don't know if I will be able to survive or not. And that was my only weak point. I don't care about anyone else. If someone comes and says something to me, fights with me, does something.

Yes, I am not a physical fight. I don't get involved in that. That's why whenever something like this nonsense was a nonsense, I would stand behind them. I would fight with my mind. I wouldn't get involved in the fights between boys. That's not my personality. I don't want to get involved.

Whoever wants to get involved, they can. So, I just had that one journey. It was difficult. I had panic attacks twice. Really?

Yes.

But that was a big challenge for me.

But it's a very difficult show.

It is. Very difficult. Very difficult.

Mentally?

Yes. Mentally, you have to be mentally very strong. Because it's like a black cave that you're walking in You're doing your action And people who say it's fake How will you fake that for 3 months? How can a person fake for 3 months?

This is beyond my understanding This is what I think How much will I be able to make people laugh if I fake it? This is beyond my understanding. It's impossible. This is what I think. If I go, how much will I be able to make people laugh?

One day, two days, then the third day.

Hey!

Straighten the bedsheet.

I have also gone through the same.

I have gone through the same.

Every time I go to Bigg Boss, like on New Year's or something, It was so difficult for us. We were so eager to go. You guys were together for 3 months.

Was this season extended?

No, mine was not extended.

Thank God.

105 days.

3 months.

But it was nice when Shoaib came in between.

He came last, I think, 2 weeks before. Yes, it was at the end. I am saying this because it was my weakest point. And when he came, I was having back issues So the day Shoaib came, I was shivering seeing him I didn't know what happened to my back pain

And that day, they took me for MRI Because I was in pain and he had to finish this family week Shoaib was the last person to come in So I met him and I was very happy Shoaib gave me his jacket and left So I am wearing the same jacket and roaming around

And late night Big Boss called me in the room Because my back problem was going on for 14 days So he said let's take MRI

And I am very claustrophobic I can never do MRI because my back problem was going on for 14 days so they said let's take an MRI

and I am very claustrophobic I can never do an MRI You have to go inside the machine

Oh, me too

But that day, I am not kidding I didn't know how my MRI went I was just thinking about showing

and smiling

That is my one MRI which I didn't even know when it happened and when it ended

I have never done it I never knew when it was done and when it was not. I have never done it.

MRI is very scary. It is very scary. And we are talking about it so much that if God doesn't do it, we have to do it. I had to do it. I didn't do it. What happened was, I told him to make me unconscious and give me anesthesia. He got it done in anesthesia.

He did it 3 times No, no, no, take it off I can't do any test I only do it It's possible because Shoaib is standing there Holding Either he stands holding my leg

Because I can't move So he holds my leg I have my first week of November I will have my FAPI again in the first week of November

FAPI scan is like a CT scan

which is mainly done to detect cancer cells in your body

to see where all in your body is spread

That's how you know

So, in my first week of November But you are clean now, right?

So, Alhamdulillah The best thing in my case was that my cancer was only in the tumour When we did the FAPI last time there were no more cancer cells in the body So, we removed 22% of her liver

which was like 11 cm in size So, along with that, the tumor was removed and the cancer was also removed We have been doing blood markers and tumor markers So, those tests are also coming out right But, I am on oral targeted therapy which is like a chemo I am taking that, it will last for 2 years

So in these 2 years, keep a close watch that there is no recurrence

That's why we have to do scans on time We are on Instagram and there are all kinds of news and advice that if you do this, you get cancer, if you do this, you get cancer You never get drunk, right? You never dance so much You never drank alcohol in your life

What are the symptoms of this? It's fate

It's not like I used to eat this and that a lot. Or the doctor said, now you have to eat less of this. It's not like that.

Honestly, my surgeon, Dr. Somnath Chattopadhyay, he's a very good surgeon in Kokila Ben. My family doctor, Dr. Tushar Shah, he, and everyone who also seen my reports, if you ask me out of all these years of experience, how did this happen to you?

We don't have an answer. All the doctors told me this.

There is no reason for this?

Because it will happen. Definitely, there must be some toxicity in the body due to which it developed. Allah knows better. There is only one reason.

We can only speculate.

Exactly.

But as you said, I've never smoked or drank. My eating habits... Of course, I eat out on and off. But it's not like...

You eat so much. Exactly. You're not a Chinese buffalo. You're not red.

Yes, so... Things happen. How did you know? Did you have a pain? I had a gallbladder pain. So, the pain was bothering me for a long time. And...

I think... From the time I conceived Rohan, after that, all your tests diverge from pregnancy related tests. Is the baby okay or not? If you have a USG, it is due to the abdomen or uterus. Your liver and other blood tests show normal readings.

So, no one would have imagined that something like this would be happening. So, this pain happened after the delivery and many times I checked and the doctor said that it could be acidity I took acidity course for 10 days and it got cured then I forgot and again the pain was there So, while doing this, a lot of pain arose

and this time it was both sides So, I told Shubh that it is paining a lot I will get a blood test done and will show it to Dr. Tishar He said ok, so I showed it to him Then Dr. Tishar gave me a 10 day course It was not hurting anymore, I forgot

Again on the 4th day, the pain was the same Then I called Dr. Tishar He gave me a CRP test Which detects infection rate in your body

Correct, CRP test which detects infection rate in your body Correct, CRP level

I got that done and it was a little high And it was not that high Oh, it was not that high? No, no, no, it was not as high as my tumor was aggressive So then he said, Deepika, can you just come and see me once? All this is happening on WhatsApp

I told him to give me the medicine, I am a family doctor He gave me the medicine Because family doctors give it So then I went and when they checked that here it is paining Then they knocked here and checked Gokyan he said let's do a CT So in that we came to know

that there are stones in the gallbladder But there is a tumor here

Oh my God

And that too in the first scan was a tumor of 8.5-9 cm And that too in the first scan, there was a tumor of 8.5-9 cm. And when they removed it, they kept an extra space of 1-2 cm from each side and removed a piece of 11 cm.

Man, you feel bad when you think you are fit,

you have a small child and you have a tumor. It was a very difficult phase.

When we saw it, We were praying a lot. It gets very difficult. And especially, we have to take care of our health. Obviously, you are not like drinking Red Bull at 4 am.

I understand that the person who abuses, he has these things. But many times, it happens that you don't have it in your hand, and it happens and it goes. My uncle was so drunk, he is so fit.

His report was so good, so good that I don't know what to say. Some drunkards' reports are so strong, that a person feels, at least give me two.

My uncle was so drunk, so much that after breakfast, this is her first task. To go out and drink. Properly, she is a first class drunkard.

She is so drunk.

What are you saying? When we got her tested, they said that the cells are less, but the liver is fine.

Yes, that is also an infection. Everything else is fine, but the infection is also fine. Everything else is perfect. Kidney, liver, function. What are you saying?

Everything is fine.

He has reported us on Facebook.

He has reported us on Facebook.

He has reported us on Facebook.

He didn't even tell us that he is fine. He didn't even tell us that he is fine. He will listen will understand now. He must be watching the podcast. We told him that your report is very bad. So we left it.

So now we are lying.

The report is bad.

Really. But now you are absolutely fine.

Yes. Manifest that you are absolutely fine. The day I had my surgery and I opened my eyes in the ICU I told myself that I am absolutely fine now Whatever was there in my body has gone Now it's only I have to stay strong and come back to my normal routine as soon as possible

It's all here, you are right It's all here And you know when you go to the hospital So there, I have said this many times in my vlogs, the people around you, I have received a different level of gratitude for everything in my life you know as I said just to many logon as far as I have a happy family

khana which had subculture mara alhamdulillah tika chalera you know agar que bimari aati hai toh hum itne capable hai ki hum sahi logon tak pohnch ke apna ilaj kara sakti hai. yeh aaj ki date mein apne apne ek bahut

badi blessing. bahut badi blessing. I have experienced the kind of love that I experienced in the hospital I can't tell you I mean, sisters, house cleaning staff, other patients' parents, their guardians all came You will be fine, we are here for you

Half of them must be saying Simar, Simar has come

Yes, and I feel very proud. You know, many people say sorry, sorry, I'm sorry. I say no. That's my earning. I mean, today, after so many years, in 2013...

What a show Simar has. Exactly.

If you're saying Simar to me today, I feel very proud that yes, you're right. That's my identity. That was a crazy show. It was so fun.

It was so fun.

And then Makhi.

You were Makhi?

Makhi was...

I was so much. Makhi was the highlight. I was so much.

And it was a very entertaining show. If we look at it from a different perspective, we can make mistakes and say, what is this? But if you see that the show is running and the country's network is running, and it's a super hit, the network won't run like this.

It will run only if TRPI comes.

It ran for 4-5 years.

6 years. I left the show, then Kirti Kelkar was Simar and it ran for another year. So that show ran for 7 years.

She became a fly, then a wife, then a mother.

It's the opposite. She became a wife, then a mother, then a fly, then God knows what, a witch.

Really?

Yes. There was a complete track that we used to shoot only on Kroha. And I went to the underworld and became Paatal Devi

And it was crazy Because there are two ways Either your show is like Nagin That there is Nagin here So the man sees it from that sense Here we saw in the beginning that this is her in-laws

Seemar will come, she will have a sister And then slowly the track would beakhi, Paatal Devi, and then we would have supernatural powers.

Supernatural, yes. So we were the ones to start off with supernatural. In our show, Sara was the serpent. I thought the serpent writer would come here. The serpent came after her. Yes, the serpent came after her. So we all, and we didn't that time, as you said, there were no supernatural shows on TV.

So, we got a lot of audience of kids. I mean, kids used to get very fascinated. Because I was full, like, there were no shows on TV, like Sonpalli and all. Yes, Baalveer. Correct. I had a similar book.

That yellow coloured gown, when I used to become Patali Devi When I used to dress up as Patali Devi in a yellow gown, I used to fight in the underworld. I used to have a lot of fun shooting in the witch's world.

Kids watch these things a lot.

A lot. A lot. So, we had a huge fan following attracted by kids.

Wow. Tell me something. You got married because of your family and then you had to give time to your family. Is that why you left Daily Soap? Or you thought that after doing it for 6 years, you get used to it?

After that I did some shows. Correct. You did some shows for stars.

Yes, Kahaan Kahaan Tum.

Oh yes, that was a good show. You saw the promo? It was the daily soap with the bashing. Yes. It was like, the daily soap was made fun of. You were the heroine, right?

No, I was the actress in that. Okay. So, Nakshi is an actress and Rohit is a doctor. And he is such a doctor that people say, what rubbish are they showing?

So, it was a clash between the two.

Oh, it was a very funny show

It was a nice show And after that I said I have to take a break And my wish was for the longest time that whenever in life

if I am planning my baby I will plan it at that time when I can leave everything for 2-3 years

and give it time after 2-3 years

This was my wish

That I have to give my baby all the time I have done everything for Rohan Massage, bathing him, everything Everything, I have always been there So that is a very conscious decision I had thought about it from a long time I will plan the baby when I can do that

And when did you start vlogging? Because vlogging, I will tell you what it was because we used to watch you then we didn't consume so many vlogs because when we started doing vlogs then we realized that okay, they also do vlogs

because it's an algorithm what you see, that's what comes and what you don't see. So we saw that you started a long time ago.

So we started in the lockdown.

Oh!

And Saba is the one who brought us on YouTube.

Oh!

So what happened is, Saba is very strong, she is very sharp in all these things. Her channel is doing very well. well Her channel was the first one She made a channel long before And during lockdown Everyone was together

Everyone was at home during lockdown She asked me to shoot I said yes She made a vlog and uploaded it And it picked up very well

It picked up very well

It picked up very well and then she came to me She said, Bhabhi, you are at home and it's lockdown You also tell me about the channel, you have a lot to share You can show DIY, you cook so well, there are a lot of things So I said, okay, let's do it So I made it and we both did well.

And then we got into Shoaib's middle. He told us in the beginning that we both have gone mad. Three people will make a channel in one house and no one will come to watch.

Everyone has their own world. Correct.

So then me and Saba played smart and we put it on the audience in one vlog. We both said in our one vlog that please tell Shoaib to make the same channel. Because we knew that he has the potential. Correct. And you know there are too many, Shoaib feels like that, it was there at that time. But when things that come from his point of view, like things that come from Shoaib's point of view, they will not come from ours. Exactly. Our, my point of view on showing only one particular thing will be very different. And he will have his own manly way of showing it.

Exactly.

So, the connect point of both can be different.

Right.

So, we said it and everyone started to follow. Yes, yes, Shoaib bhai, you should also come. And that's how, on my birthday, was his first vlog.

Wow.

So, the first vlogger in your house is Saba. And she is the one to get us. Otherwise we didn't even know anything. So she said that when we came it wasn't that much. So I think the possibility was there.

And she is still very good. She is very good. She is very good.

Vlogging is the easiest thing. Even today, his comments are very good. Very, very good. Even Nazbir's comments are very good. People think that vlogging is the easiest thing. But vlogging is the most difficult thing. Because you have to show the truth in it. Correct. You can't fake it.

Or you can't enjoy it and you vlog it.

It's visible. People hold it like this. And after all of us did it,

Farah ma'am came. She caught up so fast, we were stuck in the cycle, she took the bike and went ahead, sitting Dilip.

Farrah ma'am's praise will have to be given, man. That girl is so hardworking and so creative. And so fast. Om Shanti Om, I am a cult.

He is the director of one of the biggest hits of Indian cinema. Om Shanti Om, I am a cult. One of the biggest hits of Indian cinema. I went to her house and saw so many filmfares. I was like, what is this? She is so homely with us and talks like this. We forget that she is a legend.

Yes, I thought she is a fake filmfare. She is so homely with us.

I said, did you get a filmfare? Only you can say this and get away with it. She got angry. I went to her house and said, you got a filmfare?

She said, not got, got son.

Got.

There are a lot. But she's so nice, she doesn't do it every day, sometimes she does it. The food you made, do you want it? I'm sending it. You didn't say anything.

But she is like that. She loves to feed. She loves it. She is like that for everyone. What should I bring, what should I feed, what will she eat?

Being so indecisive in being a female, doing comedy and without script, she is so funny.

She is very strong.

She is a comedian. She is so funny She is so strong She is a comedian She is a comedian But she is a director But she is a choreographer

But she is a choreographer But I think YouTube is like that But I think YouTube is like that If you settle here You can't go back Your mind doesn't listen to you

And I think The biggest reason is You can't back out. Your mind doesn't listen to you. Because... I think the biggest reason is that the love you get on YouTube is for you. What Harsh is, what Bharti, what Deepika is. You don't get it because you're playing Sonakshi or Simar. There's a big difference between the two.

When I go out today... I wasn't used to it before the lockdown. I opened a YouTube channel. And when I went out today, I didn't have the habit of going out before. I opened a YouTube channel and when I went out after the lockdown, people came and said,

Oh, she's here.

So it took us a while to process that they see us every day. Correct. We don't know them, but for them, we are like, I meet them every day.

So that big boss thing happens here. But for them, we are like, I meet them every day.

So, the Bigg Boss thing happens here. When you meet Bigg Boss, you go out after 105 days. So, the crew who's been behind the camera, they are meeting you like, Oh, you'll have tea with me? Oh, the tea with Deepika. Excuse me, where do you… Yes, we meet them every day.

It's that.

Correct. Correct.

That is the connect that audience build up in YouTube. But you get a lot of love from YouTube.

A lot.

I think you get freedom and confidence. Otherwise, we actors, writers, creators or producers for that matter are dependent on the network. If you say colors today, your show will come. If you don't say it, you won't get it. So what will the poor guy do?

In that case, YouTube comes. Where you do, you will not get the money for TV or film. But you will get a decent amount. Plus, you will learn something or the other yourself.

And I think in life, you should explore such things more because then you learn a lot.

Correct.

And as you said, you are putting your point of view in front of the audience. So you know whether people like it or not. So it's a one-to-one connection. But why don't you upload vlogs every day? I can't. I get very tired. So after Rohan, I am so...

He is such a calm kid, he won't stop you. No, he doesn't stop me. But literally after Rohan, I think 6 or 8 months, he was a lover, so I was a little over protective with him. And I also had a C-section, although it didn't take me long to recover. But when we got him home, I committed him all the time. Like, you know, waking up in the morning, feeding him on demand, like you said.

I used to do that only. And I have fed him exclusively. So there, I didn't have any disturbance. I mean, my mind was not in the capability to divert anywhere else. It was only me, Rohan, my family, that's it. And as I said, I had thought that I have to give him that time. So everything, whether it is his massage, this and that, thousand things, everything.

Of course, I have a lot of help at home. There are a lot of people who help me. But I never kept a nanny, No one. So the whole time... Yes, never. So I have given Rohan the whole time. So that's why, the gap that I started from there,

I have started again now, to put 6-7 vlogs in a month. But who is regular in your house?

Sabha definitely. Sabha is very regular. But who is regular in your family?

Saba definitely, she is very regular. She makes vlogs very intensely. Hats off to her. Shoaib and I are like the drama dolls. When we get a chance, when something good is happening or when we are free, then we definitely shoot.

We watch your family vlogs and know everything. We know everything. Your mother-in-law, daughter-in-law. Their names are so different. We wonder what their names are. Then we sit and cook.

Biryani is made, tea is made.

Tea is a main point of our house. Different types of tea? Tea. Tea is a very important part of our family. Because we make different types of tea. My tea is different. Shoaib's tea is different. Papa drinks different tea. Mother, father, daughter-in-law, their bodies are different.

Are the husbands different?

No, the way of making tea is different. So, one will make tea and the other will make tea. Everything is like that. During Ramadan, iftar is celebrated, usually iftar is celebrated at my house, so after iftar, three to four different pots are kept there

because everyone's is made differently. Everyone's is different? Yes, everyone's is different.

The tea lovers, tea is a proper time.

Yes, but the one that is made is very good, whoever made it.

Everyone praises you. I have never had tea in my life.

What are you saying? You won't believe, after I got well, I went to my oncologist.

Can you have tea? I asked him.

I didn't ask him anything. I didn't ask him to leave this makeup, hair, nothing. I said, can I have 2 cups of sweet tea in a day? I had this question in my mind. And he just looked at me, and he smiled and said, yes, yes.

How many cups do you drink in a day?

A lot in the beginning. When we had shoots, 7-8 cups a day. You have increased since the shootings. You've grown up, right? No, I've always been a tea person. I've been a tea person since I was in my senses.

Yes, I used to see you...

My parents used to eat a lot at home too.

Yes, at my home too?

Your father is a gentleman in the vlog. He's a bit of a professor type. Or a pilot type.

What? Army officer?

No, Anna!

That's why! Because a person's walk and walk tells you that he's a big shot.

You're a bit like a professor.

He's like that. He's a retired army officer. Wow, you must have traveled a lot. Yes, of course. I was born in Danapur, Bihar, Patna. From there, Mau, Indore, Bhopal, Delhi, Siliguri, Jamnagar.

And then Papa took retirement. Jamnagar was the last. As soon as you start making friends in schools, you retire. I feel sad for army kids that you shift and go and in 2 years, till you get accustomed with the teachers and friends there you get posted

and your dad's posting comes and all the kids get sad and cry but if you look at the good side of it you get used to it meeting new people, getting to know new people, you know. Yes, I used to see him. I used to say, uncle,

he's either a pilot or something.

He's a complete KFC uncle.

KFC!

Crispy bucket.

When I was born, my dad had a very big moustache. I've seen pictures of it. So I used to pull it. So then he got a trim I was saved because of my father's bike Then my father got me a small one

In the beginning, he was like this I saw you love each other a lot You are emotional too

You love each other a lot You are the daughter of an army officer You have studied well How did you get into acting?

Because I was beautiful.

That too, that is also a matter of luck. I never thought that I would do acting. I have always seen my father in uniform. So I thought that whatever job I do, I have to go in uniform. And my father was coming to a posting somewhere, it was a good post, so we were going by air. So I travelled in a jet airways and I was seeing all the ladies going in uniform, so I got very excited. So I grabbed the red packet from there, I was very small, I grabbed the red packet from there that I want to become an air hostess.

And I was selected by jet, and that was the reason I came to Mumbai. So you were in Jet Airways? I was in Jet for two years and one year in Indigo.

So you flew?

Yes, as a cabin crew. Two doors ahead and two doors behind.

Oh, I see.

Yes, yes. So that's the reason I came to Mumbai and started living there. And I did it for two years in Jet, then one year in Indigo and then I left it. Because the job doesn't look as easy going as it is. It is very difficult. You travel in a cabin all the time. So I had a little problem with my back. It was a slight slip disc. Not major.

But the doctor said, leave it. Otherwise, it will be a big problem. So, I left it. And then, the Marathi actress, the younger one, Sonali Kulkarni, who has done Natrang, if you know.

She is my classmate. So, she used to always tell me, that you work so hard and you get so little, you don't have to do films, at least try it in daily soap. I was like this from the start,

I don't want to do films. I have been a very different kind of person. I knew that I don't want to wear anything skimpy or bold. I will hats off to those who want to do it. I am okay.

But my choice, I don't want to wear anything skimpy or bold I said hats off to those who want to do it I am okay, but it's not my choice So she said, don't do that At least try it on Daily Soap I said, we have been to Mumbai and we have to do something So I said, let's try

So she got my photo shot, then distributed the photos. So my first show was Devi, by Shakuntalam Telefilms.

Oh, so you played Devi?

Devi, well, first there was Reem. So the baby Devi was Reem. The show of Reem's daughter which was a huge hit. Then that show took a leap,

and I was playing Devi. Neer bhare tere naina, Devi.

Was it your second show as a in-law Simar?

No, it was my second show in Agle Janam Mohe Bityaay. I was playing Lali's sister.

On Zee TV?

Yes, on Zee TV.

That show ran for 7-8 months. I came after the leap. And then I got Sasural Simar Kan.

Oh, Jhaterwa is a non-veg, veg.

Oh, this is a non-veg.

You know, you bend your back. Yes, yes, I was very bad. And you only see that in the cabin. Behind, there is a lot... And now, a lot of things have eased out. Earlier we were very service oriented.

Yes, yes, yes, correct.

Earlier the business class service was very detailed. A lot, a lot. Now it's very easy. We put everything in a tray and serve. Yes, we used to serve everything at once. Earlier we used to take out trolleys.

In breakfast, in dinner,, snacks, dessert trolleys, everything. Mumbai-Ahmedabad flight, which is basically a 40-45 minute flight, we used to service hot tea and coffee in the economy.

So, it was a lot before Now I am a lot Now I am nothing Now I am a non-veg Non-veg I am about to land Tell me one thing I have seen your family

They travel in train They are scared in flight Air hostess daughter-in-law

Tell them the truth

Shoaib is scared of flights. And he is very scared.

Didn't you tell him that there are two doors and no one opens them? You told him a secret.

I didn't tell him any secret. He is very scared. And it happens that the thing we are scared of is the reason for more problems.

Yes. So whenever Shoaib has taken a flight The thing that scares you, that's where the problem is. Yes, although...

So whenever Shoaib has taken a flight, he has had 3-4 such incidents.

The turbulence.

There has been a technical issue and they come back. They get very scared. You have to travel with him to experience it. No matter where the flight is. So the only route where he goes happily is Dubai.

Emirates or something.

And he will sit in that too. He will put on his seatbelt. And like this. He will not wear his seatbelt here. He will not eat anything. He will not drink anything.

Nothing. He is that scared. And this is my own experience. When I take a flight with Shoaib The route where there is no hope of turbulence There will be turbulence there too

You will get scared Correct But I don't know, she is very scared I am scared of turbulence but he is more scared

Yes, he is very scared I mean, I am Out of, sorry Out scared. I feel guilty that why did I bring them on a flight. So I told them, no problem, we will go to Rajdhani while sleeping, you go and train.

She doesn't take the 3-4 months of monsoon.

I don't fly to such big events, no matter how much money I get. That's bad. I don't fly to such big events, no matter how much money I get. That's bad. I don't fly. I have never had a bad experience in my entire career. But we experienced one turbulence on a flight to Kolkata. It was so bad.

Were you an air hostess?

Yes.

I mean, the light flickered. It was a night flight. And the female screams. Yes, there are some flaws. Yes, there were. I was about to say that Harsh screamed.

He scares you a lot.

I was sitting in the last seat. And she got so scared. Now I was scared. My hands were shaking. Please sit. Please sit in the seat. Put the shivering. My hands were shaking.

Please sit down. Put the seat belt on.

Poor thing forgot.

I have to say it. What else can I do? If I cry and say it to you, you'll say that she won't be able to save herself. I used to cry everyday. I used to say that we are all going to die but please sit down. Don't stand.

Oh God! Really?

Yeah. It was very, very scary. But you know that's what my... When you are on that stage all the cabin crew... I never complain. I never complain about the cabin crew because I know how much pressure they are under.

I know how much pressure they are under. I know that. And sometimes customers get upset over such things and create such a big scene that you can't even imagine. You think about it, from cleaning lavatories to everything. And then, fixing your hair, applying lipstick, smiling and talking to you. And you don't know if your flight her first flight or the fourth one.

Correct.

So...

We talk to her with love and care. We use our mind when we go to the washroom.

But not everyone is like that.

Sometimes she spits on the coffee.

Sometimes she says, wait, I'll clean it. I feel so pretty and she says, I'll clean it for you. I'll do it. You stand here, I'll clean it. Then she says, wait, let me do it too. Clean it once.

Really, but is the flight safe?

The flight is safe. Now, accidents can happen anywhere. And if the flight is not there... If it's written for humans, they can come home.

The flight will fall from the sky.

Wow! Thank you, Harsh.

But I don't get scared of flights. I get scared a little.

I want to stay with Shoaib.

This fear is a pass-on. We had just gone to Goa. Everyone had gone by train. I was coming back. I told Bharti that I can't do it. So I parked my car there. I said, I'll park my car and drive for 11 hours.

One day before, I said, leave it, who will drive for 11 hours? I'll reach Mumbai in an hour. So I got the ticket. She said, why are you coming? I landed, and she didn't even drink water.

She said, I landed,

and I almost cried. I know, I know. I was so emotional, I almost cried. I know, I know.

I was so emotional, I almost cried.

I was so emotional, I almost cried. I was so emotional, I almost cried. I was so emotional will be like that. We'll also share watches. Yes, okay. I'm online. It was great talking to you. It's a family feeling. It feels like you're watching our vlog.

Yes, actually.

I think this is the biggest plus point. It doesn't feel like we haven't met in a long time.

Yes, absolutely.

I met you once in Marriott. You were there too, right?

Yes. It was a family. We haven't met in a long time. I met you guys once in Marriott. You were there too, right?

We were a family. And we watch all of them. The husband is also very cute.

We did a whole show with them. No, we got out 5 episodes earlier. Why are you looking at me?

Because our money was complete. Then we married with that money. Because our money was complete.

But you guys were a surprise package Because we had enough money, we married with that money. Because we had enough money.

But you guys were a surprise package in our Nachbali.

Yes.

Yesterday, Sonakshi ma'am was also here.

We were talking to her.

Yes.

She was the judge of Nachbali.

She was very happy.

She said, it was a very good experience for her.

It was good.

Because it was her first time. And Mohit Suri sir was also very nice. He was very... He is a friend of mine since then. He is a very nice person.

Wow.

Okay.

The first song I wrote, the title track of Malang... He gave it to me during the show.

Really?

And... What an amazing story. But I am telling you, today... I didn't know how we talked for so long and this podcast happened. Deepika, thank you so much. Next time when you come, bring Shoaib with you.

Very soon, Inshallah. You should have two kids with you.

We do podcasts with our family.

Yes, man.

Sometimes we come home.

We eat food.

No, don't do podcasts at home. Why? The podcast experience is not good when you come home Yes, many people tell us that we have to come home and do podcast I said no, we will come where you do Podcast experience is not good when you come home

Okay, then we will have a feast here We will keep the whole pot, eat biryani, suck the guts I am famous for taking my dick and taking it everywhere You came in the glimpse of Aishwarya bhai

Yes, I mean I am You came in the shot of Aishwarya Bai.

Yes, I am here. I am a little constricted because of my illness. But you gave a surprise that people thought she will start working in food industry. But she started working in clothes industry. Have you done any fashion design? No, I haven't done anything. Nothing? I haven't done anything. I just love to work with clothes, colours, designs.

And the brand is doing well, right?

Yes, Alhamdulillah.

And you've got jewellery in the brand. What do you call jewellery? Zewar.

Oh, so it's like a pot is open and a pot is coming out from the bottom. And it's a a show-off jewelry Very good, very well-thought out names And you both are very... I feel like you don't even fight with each other We fight a lot, don't say that

No, we are very nice

You hit me, I'll hit you too No, we are very nice

We have a good fight.

No one knows about it.

No one knows about our fight in the house. In the vlog. What kind of fight is it? One where you don't talk? No, no. We have a good fight.

A good one.

He is getting so angry.

That's why he's a big problem

We are like that

No, no, look, I think any couple whose relationship is strong they have a very important part in the fight If there are no fights in your relationship then something is wrong

You are right

Something is going on outside

Why don't we fight? There was a fight yesterday

Yesterday when?

You said it wrong. We didn't fight. You understand, I'm out. I'm out here.

He's out here.

It's just that after he came, there was no possibility. I'm telling you,

it's fun to have kids.

Yes.

But how beautiful. We, I think, we weren't even married then. No. Neither were we. And now we're meeting each other with a baby.

Yes.

It's loading.

Yes, loading.

We've downloaded it. The baby will be in front of you very soon. But thank you so much, Deepika. We'll give the link to their brand below the podcast. Please, please, go and gift a lot for your mothers. Because a lot of festivals are coming up. So, they look good.

We have seen such traditional clothes in very few brands. And they are so attractive. So, please go and buy and gift them. Bharti is getting a gift.

She is getting it. I have told her to send it.

Give her a loose dress. Thank you so much, Deepika. Thank you so much. Thank you so much, Deepika. Thank you so much.

Thank you so much.