SleepovEEERRR S2 E1 - Ada yang berbeda di episode ini

Can we use baby and do?

No.

Use the artist. Sure.

Hello.

Welcome back to Sleepover Season 2!

Why is it Season 2?

Besides the one we've done yesterday, the difference is... The year.

The year.

What? The year. Oh, the year has changed. And then, what else? The month. The month.

The day. We're wearing this.

The clothes.

The difference is... Erika doesn't need to put this here You can put it on the side

You can put it on the front

You can put it here Okay Luna, just give me a hug Sit here Luna, are you gonna sit? No

Can you give me some tips on how to not sit?

You're the best You have a good body No. No. Please tell us how to not sit.

Ade is the best at it. Because Ade's body is good.

I'm kidding.

I'm just telling you because a lot of people ask. Decafa, please give us tips and tricks to have an ideal body, beautiful, and slim like Decafau. Drink a lot of fiber. Drink a lot of fiber. Haaah Drink Benef to drink Benefiber? Yes.

But if you can achieve this ideal body, what would you do?

What? You like to suggest what to do to take care of your body. How?

Exercise.

Exercise.

And?

Two, don't play with your phone.

Don't play with your phone.

Don't play with your phone.

Don't play with your phone, guys.

Two,

three,

eat healthy food. Eat healthy food. The difference in this season 2, Erika has become

mama

hahahahah

she has become mommy so now you call her auntie, but it's not auntie anymore, what is it?

mama auntie Rika

mommy, mommy, mommy and do Mommy Mommy Mommy and do What do you want to be when you grow up? I want to be an artist Like who?

Like Buna Is Buna as beautiful as an idol? Is Buna as beautiful as an idol? What do you want to be when you grow up? Who's your favorite soccer player?

All of them

All of them?

Do you and your sister feel enough?

Enough of what?

Everything Do you feel like something is missing? Like, for example, lack of time, lack of money, lack of... Time. Lack of time. What time?

Playtime. Playtime.

Oh, playtime.

Because too much... Less. Too much less. But you're not happy with too much less?

No.

Oh, no. You're actually tormented, right? Yes. What torments you the most? Less. torture. What's the most torturing class?

Mandarin.

But you are number one Mandarin in school, right?

Oh, yes, Niha.

Wow, Erica. She's a teacher assistant. Mandarin.

Oh, yes? How is Mandarin?

That's because of me. Because you asked me to teach you Mandarin, so I can be a teacher assistant. Is that right? of me korea? yes, i can annyeonghaseyo can you try? yes, i can what should i try? wajah seal

wajang seal

what is it, honey? toilet

toilet

toilet

buna can do anything in this world, except Oireh!

Buna can do anything in this world except

Except mandarin Mandarin This is new Adek, are you sad that Buna often works?

No

No, why? Because I can have a lot of money. But you can't buy love with money. We can walk.

In Milan.

So, in your opinion...

I like to work together.

Oh, you like to work together. So, it's okay if you keep working. As long as you have a lot of money. Yes. Do you think I'm successful or failed?

In my opinion,

a 3-month-old child...

I don't know. I'm not sure, maybe because he's only 3 months old. I don't know.

But, are you tired? Because every month, we have to spend time with our family, watching your brother ice skating. Are you tired?

I'm tired.

It's good, but boring. He's tired, But you keep winning.

I want to go to the water.

What?

I want to be the second.

You want to be the second? But you're tired? You don't like it?

I like it.

I want to be the first, but I always get second. It's okay. But we all want to win one, but I always win two. It's okay. But we all want to win one. Because if you want to win one, you have to win two first. It means a little more, a step more. Don't get bored first, don't give up first, okay?

I know.

So cute.

But I'm actually too lazy to watch my brother play ice skating.

What?

You said it's boring. Because it's just like...

...dabun-dabun-dabun-dabun-dabun.

Like that.

But it's hard to play ice skating.

Even auntie can't do it.

Okay, I challenge you. Do you want to join? There will be an ice skating competition. I want to make you and your brother participate in a competition. You can participate, you don't have to win. I want to play with my brother.

Why?

Come here, sit down. I can't see you. My brother wants to play soccer. Is it boring for your brother to accompany you to play soccer? My brother never plays soccer. Your brother has been to school with you. My brother and his brother have been to school together.

Are you and your brother proud of your sister?

Yes.

Why are you proud of her? Because she has a lot of money. Yes, Because I have a lot of money. Yeah.

Because I have a lot of money.

Because you have a lot of money.

And I want to have a baby.

And you want to have a baby.

That's it?

No.

What else?

That's it. And I fell in love.

You fell in love?

Did you fall in love. You fell in love with me? Why do you always talk about money? You don't have anything more than money? Because if I have money, I can go to Milan. Yes, you can go to Milan. You always go to Milan. What are you doing at home?

Are you washing dishes? Cooking? I'm not washing dishes. Is it good to be at home? Do you wash your face? Do you cook? I never wash my face Yes I cook But I'm a virgin But you still cook

What are your other advantages? Other than that What are your other advantages of Buna? Other than that... Is there any disadvantage of Buna? If you say so...

I think...

I want to wake her up and play with her.

That's a disadvantage. A disadvantage.

Yes.

Right.

If... If Cava sees... Yeah Hello

Kala chava neliat Buna temen-temen chava perbedaannya pama bunanya chava

apa bedanya

Apa ngapapa

Hello

aloha bangli at mama yang lain ama buna bedanya apa It's okay. What's the difference between you and other mothers?

The difference is the person.

The drama.

The name is different. Oh, right. For example, you are more gentle. I'm not angry.

You're not angry. I'm more angry. foreign foreign like you're talking slowly slowly, you're talking slowly

i don't want to talk slowly why? i want to talk fast you want to talk fast so i can hear you if you talk softly, your voice won't be good

like

i can't hear you so if you talk blue it won't be good no, right? but if you say blue, it's not good? no? but if you say blue, it's good? good, yeah? chava, no, it's like this, you have to say chava

yes

good

because we won't hear it

but besides buna, who is chava's favorite family? me me, bununa, Nenek Do you love your dad? I told you, I love Buna, Nenek, Dad, Buna, Buna, Buna Auntie Deva, Nandi, I love you too. Is everything okay with you?

Yes. Is there anyone who's not okay? Uncle. Uncle. Why do you want to be an uncle?

He always hurts me.

How does he hurt you? He wants to play but he's weak. Oh, so he hurts you. Is there anyone who makes you sad? Living in this world. I'm sick I'm sick oh so you have a heart attack is there anyone who makes you sad? living in this world

dad for sure dad

why dad? because I didn't want to play barbie with my brother but now I want to play barbie dad makes you sad because you don't want to play Barbie with you anymore. Oh. I'm sad because I don't want to play Barbie with you anymore. But now I want to play Barbie by myself. But now... No.

When you first came, you played with me. I watched it by myself with my mom.

Oh.

Yes.

And then you were lonely because your dad didn't want you to play with Barbie. But now I want to. Now you want to? Now you want to play with Barbie? Because I'm tired of it. Oh, you're mad at your dad?

What did you say to your dad? When I was at home, I didn't want to play. I wanted to go to the bedroom. Then I wanted to take my phone. Then I saw this video. This is a flower. I didn't want to play with my brother.

So, the plan was good? You played with your brother? Yes What will you do if your dad makes you sad again?

I will...

You will kill him?

Yes So you and your brother are proud that you don't have a dad and you kill him? Yes Even though you are different from your siblings? We are all different

That's a cool answer

Are you still happy and proud of your dad and Buna? Yes Why? Because I have Buna to take care of my sister Hmm So you're not sad if your sister and you are different from your friends? It's okay

It's okay?

Because there are many people who are different Right?

Oh yeah, who said that? You know where it came from? You said that? Yeah, I heard it I followed it Oh, at school they said that? Yes, I heard it. I just followed it. Oh, at school, they said that everyone is different.

So we can't compare. Oh, the one who knows the difference is not us? No.

Oh, I see.

So, you and I are still happy even though we are different?

Yes.

What's the difference between Buna and Ayah? The difference is between a boy and a girl.

What's their characteristics?

Their characteristics... I don't know What are their characteristics? Their characteristics are like... Their habits Their habits

For example, Buna is always kind and not arrogant Okay Buna wants to know Buna wants to know

what?

what?

what?

but Buna and Ayah already broke up

yeah

do you know why?

because Buna and Ayah already broke up

I know because I remember everything

what?

everything that I remember I saw Buna and your dad at the playground and I wanted to go in and then you pushed me out and I wanted to go in

and I went in and I was happy and I played and I woke up because my dad was praying and I was playing behind you But I'm not sad I'm still happy

It's okay, are you okay with it? No, because I have to keep praying That's what makes you sad No, that's not sad, that's complicated Is there anything that makes you sad? No oh um me and i yeah

happy is yeah I don't play with my sister. You don't play with your sister? I'm working. Oh, so you and your sister will play with your sister all the time? Yes, but I can't.

But she said she can work because she has a lot of money. Yes, but... So, can you work or not? I can. If I don't work, we take the money there who said that?

I never said that

guys

I never said that who told you and your brother that you have to work to get money?

you

what? you thousand dollar Because you have to work to earn money. Why?

I'm a thousand year old.

Oh, thousand year old. Congratulations on becoming a mother, Rika. Do you have any advice for your mom to be a good mom. What's the advice? It's like...

Advice?

Yes, like...

Like, mommy...

To be a good mom.

To make baby Endu happy, you have to do this.

I'll follow you.

I'll follow you.

First, to be a good mom? What should you do to be a good mom? Eat good food. Second? Fall in love.

Fall in love fall in love

mommy

mommy

we're cured baby andu is sick so she can play i can't do that okay bye bye here baby

i want to kill you

here baby thank you I'm going to kill you, honey.

Come here, baby. It's okay. It's just a baby. I just want to take a nap.

After you massage her? After you massage her?

Oh my God.

After you massage her the baby. Who are you? Say hi to your brother. Say hi to your brother.

Brother.

Look at his cheeks. His cheeks are more chubby. But this one is more cute. But this one is cute too. This means that Adek Capau is a woman here. Later, baby Andu will take care of Capau too.

Look, she's so confused.

She's breathing.

It's sand head, honey.

Do you think baby Endu is cute? Yes.

What's the difference between baby Endu and baby Endu?

There's a difference.

Oh, there's no difference. They're both babies?

There's a difference. Baby End bigger. But both are cute? No, one is a boy, one is a girl. Can we have a baby and a dove? No, of course not. And we can use the artist, right?

Oh, nice.

So, how are you, Er? How's your feeling after your first kid?

Happy, grateful, blessing.

What do you think is the most difficult thing in motherhood? Carrying.

Carrying.

Can you carry this? No. Can you hold it? Can you hold it?

No.

Can you? Can you hold it? Try to put it here.

Why is your baby only like this?

Do you want to try? Try to sit.

Try to sit properly.

Try it. Try to sit properly. Try it.

Hug the window.

Sit.

You have to sit.

Sit. Slowly. How is it? Heavy. Heavy. Okay.

Here, dear.

Just lift it. Here, honey.

Just take it.

Poor thing.

What was the hardest part after going through motherhood? After everyone was talking about motherhood, motherhood, motherhood, becoming a mother, parenting, parenting, parenting, and you finally experienced it yourself, even though it's only been three months, but you've been pregnant, which means you already have a sense of motherhood.

I think I'm still enjoying it. I'm not at the stage of difficulty or hassle. Everything is made easier, praise the Lord. The baby, the baby and do, I think... Do you feel like after you have a child, you realize what unconditional love is? When I gave birth to my child, I first knew what unconditional love is.

Because before we were dating, even to our parents, we feel disappointed, we feel like we're left behind. But when you have a child, do you feel that way? Yes. When you have a child, no matter how the child is,

you won't feel disappointed.

Yes, that's right.

I think we will always accept, even if it's a thousand times,

that we're like, damn it.

Is that right? Is that right Oh my god. Is it true?

See?

Is it true, Buna?

Is it true?

Yes, Buna.

What changed in you after you became a mother? What changed? My brain, to be honest.

My brain...

Membrane, right? Yes, it really exists. Because I used to... Not often, tell my mom, when we talk, we talk halfway through. I'd say, Cha, please make sure you do that.

That's what I do now. What do I do? It's in my head, but I can't say it. That's the most significant thing.

The other things are...

Like, it's your life. It changes instantly. That's the most significant thing. The other things are... Like, life. It's changed. Very much. Now, wherever I go, I'm always thinking about her. So, when I'm working,

I want to go home,

I want to go home quickly.

Right, honey?

Right, honey?

But, you yourself, after you got pregnant, I mean, it wasn't planned, after you got pregnant, to prepare yourself to be a mother, and you finally said, I'm ready to be a mother, what was that moment?

The first time I held her, the first time I breastfed her, that was... The best feeling ever. The best feeling ever. It felt like...

I needed it.

Yeah. Why, honey?

It felt like our body was needed by someone. I felt something special there. At that point. Do you want to sit? I feel like I need someone. That's when I feel special.

Do you want to sit? Wait, wait. She doesn't like to be put to sleep. She's grown up now.

She wants to sit.

Sharing tummy time, right?

Yes. Sharing tummy time so you can sit faster.

Yes.

Can you teach me tummy time?

I want to show you.

After you become a mom, what are you most afraid of in parenting? I want to carry her, but he's heavy Adek, Adek Buna, allow me to carry him

let's go to Buna

wait

I think he's being p pissed because he smells like iron

Let's change the diapers first Okay?

Here, let's change the diapers first

The baby and do Let's put it there first

So he can talk freely

Play with his brother and sister

Yes

But I want to ask you Because what I've been thinking about all this time, a lot of people say it's not easy to be a mother. In your opinion, what part of it that makes people say it's not easy to be a mother? It's not easy because sometimes,

I don't know which is right and which is wrong. Because sometimes everything is right and everything is wrong.

Okay.

Like, there are many things that are suggested, A, B, C, D. But it turns out that in certain situations and conditions, for example, the suggestion is A. But in certain situations, it, what happens is B. And in the end, we do something else compared to the advice that should be given.

The one that should be given. For example, when I was young, many people said that my brother and sister don't like to eat rice.

My brother really likes to eat rice. I don't know which is right or wrong because for me, both are okay. But for some people, they will say that if I can't eat rice, I should go to therapy. So I can eat rice. But I don't think it's necessary. Because just like other people,

maybe they don't like it. They don't have to force it. Or if for example, you want to eat... As long as... If it's me, as long as I want to eat...

eat vegetables and protein. So I don't think about the carbs. And then later, someone said, I remember there was an event, a mother's event, and at that event, I was carrying crackers. I brought crackers for my son. He was maybe 3 years old. I brought crackers for snacks,. My brother was 3 years old. I brought crackers for snack. But not for kids.

I mean, just regular shrimp crackers. I mean, shrimp crackers. The one that you can eat with yellow rice. I gave it to my brother so he can eat it. He was 3 years old. I didn't blame him.

But I offered it to his mom. Not to him. I said, I want to do it too. And her mom said, No, it's just that there's too much of it. The MSG, the oil, the sugar, whatever.

I was shocked.

I was like, what?

I'm so bad, I gave her a lot of crumbs. You know?

Yeah.

And then, somehow, I asked her crackers. Yeah. But somehow, I... Ask my kids. They never ate rubber candies. I didn't realize that they just ate rubber candies. Just now.

Because of me. I just realized it. Because when they were little, I tried to be a good mom. I tried to be a good mom. I would reduce sugar, oil, and other things that could be a disease.

But sometimes I can't avoid it. And sometimes I'm tired. I would give them processed food, me a chocolate, give me an ice cream, give me this, give me that. Sometimes I feel like, I can't, I can't, I can't. Many people say they agree with parenting FEOC, some say they agree with parenting, we choose. I feel like

both are right and both are wrong.

Because you won't know how the adult will be. Okay. Do you understand? With parenting, let's see from our friends. Like me, I'm very, very not strict with parents.

I'm very free, I mean, I'm free to go home until late at night, when I was very liberated, I mean I was allowed to go home at sunset, when I was a kid. I was allowed to go to my friends' house, I was allowed to walk by myself, and all kinds of things. And I was able to take care of myself. But there were some of my friends who couldn't.

There were some of my friends who were electrocuted and ended up like this. Some of them got a VOC and it turned out to be a trauma. Some of them were are like this, some are like that, some are like this, some are like this, some are like this, some are like this, some are like this, some are like this, some are like this, some are like this, some are like this, some are like this, some are like this, some are like this, some are like this, some are like this, some are like this, some are like this, some are like this, some are like this, some are like this, some are like this, some are like this, some are like this, some are like this My parents raised my brother differently. They treated him differently. My brother was spoiled. He was given everything. Since he was a kid, my brother had three babysitters.

He was given a comfortable life, like air conditioning, delicious food, and all that. Maybe because she was a gold digger, it was hard to have a child, and she had my brother, so she was spoiled. Until I saw that when she was in school,

everything had to do everything himself. While my parents, maybe because they saw my brother like that, they were different. I had to do everything myself. I was allowed to go home alone, but I was a girl. My brother was still in the middle of picking up girls. So I realized that my parents were really strict with me. They were kind to me, even though I felt like they were unfair to me when I was young.

They were harsh to me. They were very strict. In the past, they would hit me with their hands. I think that was normal. Normal in back then. So, I didn't get hit mentally.

I didn't. I felt like education made me more... brave and responsible. It made me feel like, whatever. I'm fine being alone. That's it.

That's why I said, sometimes, as a mother, I can't judge people. To be honest, I'm not a vocational teacher. I'm very determined, but I never play with my children. And I really don't allow my children to play with each other's hands. And that's what I try to apply, because they're small kids, they like to play with their hands.

But, you said that the first and second child are different. At that time, I felt that... ...my brother is where I learn as a mother. Because that's where I understand a lot of things. What should be like this, what should not be like this. It's like a test.

The first child is my test. Maybe all mothers are the same. The second child, we already know the pattern. So we try to apply it better than when we have the first child. I once read a writing like this. When we give birth to our first, second, third, fourth, fifth child, it doesn't mean that they are used to having children.

Because when we give birth to our second child, we actually learn from scratch. Learn what? Learn to have a child that has a sister. Do you understand? Because we used to have a single child. When we had a second child, we raised her sister and her brother.

I learned that. I was born again as a mother. I was like, I'm a new mother. What should I do? So that my brother and sister don't feel a lack. So that my brother and them feel comfortable with each other, so they can feel love for each other,

so they won't fight, so they can love each other, so when they're born, they won't feel like they're replaced. I thought, I'll keep learning, and the third child will be like that, the fourth will be like that, the fifth will be like that. the third child, and so on. The fourth child, and so on. The fifth child, and so on. So, that's why sometimes there are a lot of quotes, the first child, the second child, the third child, you know? It's hard to be a middle child.

Yes, because being a mother is really hard. We can't apply it. It's different for every child. It's not because, unfortunately, it's different. Because we learn differently. We go through life. If the first child is like this, we can't be like this.

If it's too much, it will be like this. Sometimes, it's like that. But what I'm most afraid of is, I try to be fair to both. That's why I said earlier, there of them have a lot of less. The point is, one is not less, the other is not less.

Okay.

One is sick, the other is not less.

Okay.

So, I'm like, okay, let's equalize. But if one is performing, the other one also has to perform. Because I want to be equal to my kids. That's why my two kids have different talents. Chava is good at ice skating, and he likes to show off. While my brother prefers to go to the academy and discosport.

So I feel like, I will try to be a mother who can support the other two, even though there will be a lot of difficulties. It's hard. Because I see that you already have two children. What you think is definitely a part of it. That's right.

It's hard to do it.

Good night. Good night. Come here, I'll hug say goodnight. Good night. Give me a hug. Good night. Good night.

Have a good dream.

When I was a kid, I always applied what my mom's parenting tips. I took it from my mom. To be honest, I don't really like my mom's parenting.

Why?

Because it's rough. But there's one thing I always bring with me, because of my son. I will never forget to say goodnight. Goodnight, I love you. Every day, every time they want to sleep, there should be a goodnight, I love you look.

It should be there. If I'm outside, this, let me show you. The content of this is just... Goodnight, Guna. That's all.

And then...

I'm going to go to school.

If I fall asleep... Goodnight, Guna. That's all. And then? I go to school. I go to bed. I sleep.

Everyday. Why? Because, I don't know, I feel like you care. Good night, good morning, how are you? I love you. That's one way I want to apply my love to the people around me.

And my mom used to talk to me like that. Until now, I always say good night to my mom. Even though my life is so dramatic, I always say good night, I love you. Since you were a kid? Since I was a kid. With your mom? With my mom. I don't always been good night. I love you. Since you were a kid? Since I was a kid. With your mom?

With my mom. I don't have a good night.

Because I want to talk about my family's parenting.

You know.

We're the same. Like, the VOC is above the VOC. But I can't blame my parents' parenting. Because they were in the 50s. Right, right. I can't blame my parents, because they were born in the 50s. That's right.

It was a time of colonization. I can't blame them, because my parents were colonized. So, to them, the right parenting is... What they do. If you do something wrong, they'll hit you. So what? So we won't be afraid. Because what I see, the difference between now and then,

there are a lot of kids who are not afraid of their parents. Yes, that's right. I'm really afraid of my parents. Because when I'm eating, I can get scolded for making noise. Spoon falls, I can get hit on my hand. I can be locked in the bathroom if I didn't do my homework.

The lights were turned off. There were a lot of things I couldn't tell. But I think they succeeded. They made me become the person I said I was. A strong woman, responsible. I've been teaching you until you're an adult.

You can continue it when you're an adult. My mom is also a rough person. My mom likes... She's just like you. She's always in the bathroom, she's always in the bathroom.

She's like that. But maybe I... I can't blame her, but maybe because my mom is an only child. So I don't want that to happen to my kids. So, I'm quite used to it.

Yeah, same.

I'm quite used to it. I'm trying to understand, but it doesn't mean I'm not old-fashioned. I'm old-fashioned because it didn't happen to my brother. Oh, yes, yes. So it only happened to me. So I see from my childhood, I only see the difference between,

Oh, my brother's behavior like this, so it's like the explanation is to me, you know? Because I've been through that kind of childhood, I don't think I'll give it to Andrew, but I'll still give it to VOC. VOC, which means in the good way.

Like, not hitting, right? Not playing with your hands, but more like, more like, the sound, the tone. Yeah, the tone, the sound. Like, if you want to play, you have to do all your homework. Your school. Like, if you want to play, you have to do all your homework. That's how I was back then.

So, after school, I had to do all my homework. If not, I can't play. I just took the good ones. The positive ones. Cute. But, I mean...

I'm blanking.

Mumbrains.

What?

I mean, parenting, family... Yeah, that's why I always say, before this, it's hard to be a mother. Because I feel like a mother, honestly, I'm...

I'm more forgiving to my mom's past. Because I just realized that it's hard, especially when you're single. And I try to be a good parent, where I take care of everyone's feelings, my children's feelings, where I feel it's my duty.

And I'm really grateful to my kids. They know. If people ask, do they know that Agua is a girl? They know. But they, I swear, they don't discuss it. Just like you saw,

Biru said, Break up? That never happened. He never actually talked to me. Never. That's why he said,

Can I not talk like this? Because I think he can read the situation at home. Like, oh, this, this. But I never stopped him from not talking, actually. That's why I knew he didn't like moving house. But yeah.

But have you ever told him about the situation between you and him? When we got divorced, I didn't tell him. That's why he broke up. He didn't know about the divorce. I always said that we were from different families. We were not together anymore. But I never gave him any reason. Usually, like, for example,

back then, Chava, he was already used to me not being with his dad. But Chava wasn't that annoying. He was just normal, he was a bit of a statue. But if his brother was already passing us along, if he was the one who cried or something, we, the way was, me and and I tried to get closer to him.

We would have dinner or lunch together. Until, thank God, I didn't expect him to answer like that.

Do you know why? When I saw what he said, I once said that to my mom. I once said that Ica knows everything that happened when I was 3 years old. I said that.

I don't know why at the age of 3 I still can, not still can, but already can capture those moments. And that's what I told my mom so that she knows at what age I can capture those moments. And that's what I told my mom, so she knows how old I am, I can remember everything.

At that phase, you still think I don't realize the world. That's what I saw. Biru speaks exactly like me when she was her age. So, what I saw was that she would talk to it when he gets older, like I did to my mom. Ica remembers, Ica has done this, Ica remembers, and so on. But not now.

But his speech just now, to make you realize, I remember everything. But actually, Er, I know. Because that's what happened to me too.

Oh yeah? Yeah, that's why sometimes that's what happened to me. Oh yeah?

Yeah, that's why sometimes parents like to talk. They don't know if their child is actually listening and knowing and realizing what's happening. That's why I always ask them every night, is there anything you want to talk about? I always ask, is there anything you want to ask? It's okay if you want to hear it, it's okay if you want to answer. So if you ask me, when will I tell my situation,

actually as transparent as possible with my children, there will be a time when they ask me.

Okay.

I'll just wait until they ask me. I feel like, like he said earlier, why does he never tell me about it? I think he knows that it's a sensitive topic that will make us all sad. Like me, I'm sad, he's sad, and it will bring back the trauma again. So it's better not to talk about it.

But if you ask me, do I ask him? I do. But sometimes, he will say it a little bit. Like,

sad?

No, it's just normal. As a mother, I know that this is a sad brand. This is not. No, no, it's true. It's not sad. And now, if you ask me, all the questions we've asked you,

that's the reality. It's already like that. Is it sad? What's it called? I've never asked them if they're proud of me. But they always say that to people around them.

They like to say that they're really proud of me, He said that he loves Buna, loves Buna, and adores Buna. His job is to watch... Sometimes the kids make content about me that Cava wants to watch. Cava is my role model, and sometimes I feel like I shouldn't be loved by him. But I'm happy. It turns out, even though everyone said I'm ugly,

my kids still love me. Praise be to God. And I think that's what will happen to you. Wrong! Okay, but this is not sad. I'm sorry. I'm sorry. I'm sorry. I'm sorry. I'm sorry. I'm sorry.

I'm sorry.

I'm sorry.

I'm disappointed. But the older I get, the more many things I expect from my mom. My way to forgive my mom is to learn from her. What is it that I don't like my mom did when I was a kid? I didn't feel heard. Okay, now I will listen to everything my kids want. I used to feel that I was being demanded a lot.

I don't want to demand anything from my kids. My system is a reward system. I'm okay with it. I'm okay with my brother's bad grades. But don't expect a 9th grade. I won't be mad.

As long as you're in class, it's fine. But if you want to be a 9th grader, you have to win first. If you want to be a 9th grader, you have to win first in school. So, they know that to get...

So, for the holidays that you see, they earn something. They do something that makes me feel okay. It's like a job. And that's what I think. I don't know if you're asking the right question or not.

My way. I don't know. But that's the best thing I can do. Like, thank God, you have a good... You have a value in something. You have a challenge in something. I feel, oh, this is right.

What? My plan. Okay, I'm looking for a lot of money to save that money for vacation. Because vacation is also one of my quality time.

Because I work. So, that's where my quality time with my kids. So, now, every time you see me and my kids on vacation, it's their reward for doing something. If they don't win, or there's nothing they can achieve,

or just bare minimum, then I won't give them a vacation. But that doesn't mean I'll be mad. It's okay. But that's me.

I'm going to be mad. But that's me. I'm impatient. I'm going to take Endu on a vacation.

But now the plane is still free.

How old are you? Can you board the plane? 6 months?

I can.

Really?

3 months.

3 months?

You can?

I can.

My son is your age. I'm gonna go home. I'm gonna go home. I'm gonna go home.

I'm gonna go home.

I'm gonna go home.

I'm gonna go home. I'm gonna go home. I'm gonna go home. Let's go to Bali! Guys! What are you doing in Bali? Playing with the land?

There are so many good things done by Balinese. I swear! I was so busy when I brought my kids to Bali. They can do sensory play there. Sand, beach, sea. They have to feel that from Bali. Sand, beach, sea.

They have to feel that from the beginning, in my opinion. If they can. Come on, let's go. But the trouble is, if they're still babies, they have to keep holding on to it. But it's true, when I first had Endu in this world, I was afraid of making a lot of mistakes.

Because you know, my difference from others is that Endu is not... Endu's condition is different from other Semarang families. And I always feel that I'm afraid of my mistakes. This is wrong, that is wrong, this is wrong, that is wrong. But we have to keep going.

I feel like if I open the comments, I'm afraid... Because many people like to comment on how to do parenting properly. Somehow I feel like I don't want to show that I'm a mom who is good at parenting. I want to be like, if you want to give me some information, I will accept it. I don't want to be a pushover. Because in reality, I don't follow the parenting education in Indonesia. This is beyond all expectations.

So I still have a lot to learn. That's why what makes me scared sometimes is that people see me as a woman who is going in that direction. Do you understand? But I have an answer because I, the mother is going there. Do you understand? But I have an answer, because I used to feel that way too. Even though maybe you're not as worried. What you can value is your closeness to your child.

And that's what you can value is your own child.

Do you understand?

Like this, I mean, now maybe everyone will judge what we do as a mother, but the one who can judge the most, the most valid, our parenting, the first is, my son knows that I love him. So one day, if they read the bad comments or say that I'm for a good mom, with all the choices I've made and I choose, you feel it, right? If I love him. Deep down, there must be. Do you understand? Like us, we say that our parents are many, but actually there are many.

But you know, right? You know. That's the point. But, if I look at it from the social media, there are many other mothers who can help defend. One example, yesterday, I didn't wear shoes from the first month, second month, until now, I didn't wear shoes.

That's actually a reason, but I'm too lazy to explain to people, so I don't reply to all the comments, because I don't have the energy to explain. And I didn't wear my shoes. I was told to wear them.

They said I was rich. I couldn't even buy shoes for my child.

I was told that.

Can I answer a little? How can a child under one year of age not be restricted to wearing shoes and shoes? That's for his sensory and motoric.

Next.

Yes, that's it.

Many people answer like that, Cel. So, these mothers who may have had similar experiences, defend. So, it's like, well, it's okay, you don't have to wear shoes. It's not allowed for a child this age to wear shoes, you can't have a kid this age wearing shoes. Your answer was also commented a lot. So I feel that the bigger the parent education,

so just let each other know and respect each other, don't mix too much. Because it's definitely a mother who knows what's going on. When you were born, were there many people around you or on social media who told you not to do that? The difference between me and you is

that I'm very prepared to be a mother. I read a lot of parenting books. I really went to a lot of doctors. So, for example, I can't be a virgin. I'm looking for the reason why I can't be a virgin. Even so, I will still be mistaken by the netizens.

Like, no, this is the right thing to do. So, sometimes, if I want to share about parenting, I always give them... I give them... What is it? Not a journal, what is it?

Notes?

Notes.

Yeah, notes. Like, sorry if I'm wrong or sorry if I'm different.

Okay.

Because the reality is different. Some say, if you're always carried, it smells like your hand. Some say, oh, it's a say, we all have our own ways, but if you want to know my way, here's my way, with my reason,

if you don't like it, it's okay. If you want to be different, it's okay. I won't judge you. What do you want? Do you want to give birth to a water bird? Do you want to give birth to, normal, Caesar. I think you are all good mothers and the best for your children.

And what we have given, we have tried our best. Although it's hard to say it's perfect. What do you want to do? What do you want of being like that? But there are many mothers out there who want to show their love and how to raise their children. So, I think there's a risk involved. So, if you comment, you have to accept it. I don't want to show that, Chel.

I don't think I will be a part of those mothers. I will still show my child's progress and my closeness to my child. But I don't want to talk about parenting because I'm really blind. But I want to learn. So if there are comments like that, I the comments. Because it's my opinion. Besides shoes,

some people said that rich people only wear shoes. It turns out that many people objected. Like you said, it's not good to wear shoes or pants.

There's another one, when Endu was vaccinated for the second time, Endu cried too for the second time, Endu cried too. He cried, but I hugged him and said, Who's naughty? I'll pinch you later.

Someone commented, Ms. Erika, I'm sorry, if Endu cries, if you calm him down, it's okay. And no one objected. So, that it was okay. And no one was against it. So I thought, maybe it's true. That's why when I was vaccinated with the third vaccine,

when I cried, I was like, it's okay, it's okay. It's okay, it's okay. Do you understand? So I didn't see them as annoying people. Somehow, okay, it's true. But, other than your physical condition, it didn't change much, right? My body, praise the Lord, hasn't changed.

So guys, because I didn't join the parenting education, my friend is so nice.

So many things were advised to her, so that I don't regret it. The point is, Rachel's advice is useful. Advice, advice.'s advice is useful. The advice is useful.

She told me that even though my stomach is not big, I still have to apply the oil that I used to use. Apply the oil. Apply the oil, don't be sad. Because, stretch marks are hard, right? It's hard, and it's genetic, actually. But we never know.

So, she's been doing it for a while, before it happens, I suggest you to use it. Just keep rubbing it. Don't stop. Dry it, rub it again. So, don't be lazy.

And I do it every day. Non-stop. Because her words get into my head. Like, you haven't been brushed yet? Okay.

You know? It's just my imagination. And there's a lot more. Rachel once, what did you buy for me? Fuji bought me vitamins that were taken by the late Vanessa.

That's the way it is. Oh, you know what they take. Yes, that's it. Real food. real food.

Real food.

The one that Vanesa drank. So she bought that for me. A lot. I think that's what helped. My body, praise God, didn't have a stretch mark. Thanks to you.

Thanks to me, it's not there.

My body is back, normal, praise God. Thank God. I'm begging you, when you're in a rush, just ask for a massage. Can you really do that?

You don't get a massage, right?

No, but...

I don't know, I only know that it's a C-section. C-section, and then straight to the Tami Tak. But I don't know. You don't know, I only know that it's a C-section. C-section and then they do a Tami Tak. But I don't know. I don't know. Because which hospital can do it? Please comment here.

Because... In a mother and child hospital, there's no aesthetic. Except maybe in a general hospital. There's a doctor with an aesthetic.

After this, we'll continue.

Because Reggie said that, so that it's easier, what if Dr. Fadli, after your surgery, Andrew came out, and Dr. Danu came in. So it's one job.

But that's not possible. Just imagine it, guys. Maybe there is, but it's impossible just imagine guys maybe there is, but if there is, please comment below yeah yeah yeah besides that, I also want to suggest for you and I've been poisoning you many times yes

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so if you like heat immediately For those of you who like to get hot easily, for those who like to get burned easily,

Don't try this at home.

So, this is your glowing everyday. I saw you wearing this, so I asked,

can I actually use this for my I asked myself, can I really wear this?

Yes, you can I can right? Yes

That's the first impression, but after I tried it, it's really pretty So I keep this stock

Wow, and I'm the one who gave you the stock

If I can have no stash match, my face will still glow

This is sure, glowing everyday. Okay, we're going to play games that have been a while. Before that, for those of you who watched the sleepover, you can comment below who we invited that was fun and didn't make me feel like I was being teased like I was being closed the door.

You're talking about being closed the door?

Yes. Why?

Have you been following Om Dad?

Yes, thank God. I'm not blocking Om Dad.

But?

Block and block. So I don't want to unfollow, unfollow is like, we so banget lu, unfollow but he still follow. Block unblock, so it's like, it's okay, let's go be stranger.

For 4 years.

4 years, and then hi again. I hope I'm not wrong, oh my I'm not discussed again in the comment section. Alright, the games are still the same.

Green flag or red flag.

Right or left? Right. Okay, we want to talk about motherhood, let's redefine the meaning of red flag or green flag. A mother figure, in our opinion. A mom who still wants to have a me time every day. Green flag or red flag? 1, 2, 3.

It's a mess.

Every day doesn't mean every time. It's a mess. or just being patted, that's considered a good me time. Because later on, as time goes by, the kids can be independent. Like, my brother and I, now, our me time is not an hour long.

But what do you think is a me time?

A me time is when we are with ourselves, ...become... ...a time for us... ...and ourselves... ...that makes us not feel... ...like... ...we have a lot of responsibilities. Do you understand?

That's what I think a mother's me time is. Because a mother... ...her head is like... ...my child has breastfed before. My child has... ...has been replaced by diapers before.

And sometimes there are good people who help. Have you breastfed yet? Have you replaced my baby's diaper?

Sometimes, there are good people who help. Like a mom, or a mom's mom. Like, come here, hold this for a second. We need time to... Just a second. That's my me time. My me time?

Meeting Rachel and Fuji. Because Rachel and Fuji helped me realize, come on, you still have to live. Come on, come on, you still have to live. You're not going to disappear. You know what I mean?

Because there are a lot of moms out there who, since they have kids, it's like they've lost their world. They've lost themselves.

Yeah, they loss of her identity.

So, I feel like after becoming a mom, we have this figure, there's Rachel, there's Buna, there's Erika, there's Jadimami. When I became, I don't want to lose my identity 100% and become Buna, I want to still have Rachel.

Because that's who I am. Then I got a new responsibility after I turned 21. I have a new responsibility. I don't want to just finish myself off and dedicate 100% for that. I want to have at least 10-20% for myself. My career, myself, my comfort.

I think that's important. Yes, yes, yes. Because those who see their children also want to see their mom happy. That's right. Happy baby, happy mommy.

Okay, next. Mom who deleted her kid's photo because she's afraid of overexposure or not showing her kid's face at all, especially on social media.

Red flag or green flag? 1, 2, 3. In my opinion, it's the decision of the parents. Or is it comfortable for the parents?

For me,

there must be a reason, guys. It's impossible not to have one. So if you think, why is your child not being shown, why is your child not like the others, you don't need to know why.

Because everyone has a right,

and they must have their own reasons.

Okay? Next. A mom who feels like she can't do everything, like cooking, teaching her child to flag or green flag. One, two, three.

I think humans should have a survival mode, like cooking or basic things. When we have kids, we we will teach survival mode to our child. And we will learn how to do it. I don't mean we can do it right away. I also need time to learn how to do it. I can't do it right away.

And cooking, cooking! You have to cook! If you can't, I think it's too much. You don't have to cook rendang. You can buy it at a restaurant. But if we never know,

if there's a zombie or alien, we can cook eggs at home. I think you still have to be able to cook. It's okay to cook noodles. The important thing is to cook. Since I became a mom,

the word, I can't, doesn't apply to me. It's either I want to or I don't. I think a mom is very selfish to say she doesn't want to. Honestly, I can't cook.

I really can't cook. But Rachel is right. Whether you want to or not, if you want to, learn. Because there's no such thing as you can't. If you want to, learn. We don't say you're good. We don't say you can cook. That's Chef Renata.

But if you can only cook bento, like sukan gemoy, that's Buna. I will become a chef when I'm 6 months old.

Okay.

Next.

Mom who can't follow your parenting rules because she's not suitable. Red flag or green flag?

One, two, three.

Maybe there are some things like, if your child is one month old, don't feed him bananas. That's the bare minimum. Because it's a pity, he can't digest it yet. But parenting methods like that, sometimes... Because this question is because about the person's personality.

If the person's personality is not suitable, then the main reason is... Maybe because of work. Yes, it's about yourself. But if it's about the child, parenting rules are important.

Just to minimize it. Next.

Mindset, I don't enjoy every moment of being a mother, but I still love my child. Is it okay or not? Red flag or green flag? Mindset, I don't enjoy every moment of being a mother. One, two, three.

You're so different.

I know your answer. I feel that every moment of being a mother mom is different and not everyone enjoys it. Alhamdulillah, Erika enjoys it, Alhamdulillah I enjoy it, but it doesn't mean I 100% enjoy everything. I don't enjoy breastfeeding, I don't enjoy being pregnant, and I'm pretty open about it. But it doesn't mean I don't love my child. So, if you enjoy it or not, it's up to us to feel it.

But it doesn't mean I don't love my child. If I don't enjoy, it doesn't mean I don't do it. I don't enjoy doing it, but I still do it. So, that's my opinion. Because that's what causes baby blues. Because people don't enjoy it.

And then they're told, you should enjoy it, you're a mom, what do you want to do? Stress, stress, baby blues. For me, why red flag? Because I think,

maybe it's true, because I enjoy it, I really enjoy breastfeeding, I really enjoy taking care of my child. So the mindset that comes to my mind is always grateful, grateful, grateful, and grateful. So I see it like, don't let the fact that you don't enjoy being a mother

make you become a child. Because there's a saying, right? A child is happy if his mother is happy. So I think the mindset, the mindset has to be changed. Okay, if you don't enjoy it, what part of it do you not enjoy?

If you don't enjoy the process of breastfeeding, how do you enjoy it? Maybe you can pump, stock up on a lot of things in the fridge. I stock up on a lot of things in the fridge so I can still do activities, I can still play, I can still hang out. So the mother's still in the mindset. That's it. Okay, next.

A mom who still works and not a full-time housewife. 1, 2, 3. Both are okay for me. All are choices. Because both are hard. Being a full housewife is hard,

and working is also hard. Each one has their own difficulties. And not necessarily I can be a housewife, and not necessarily a housewife can hard, and hard to work. There are different kinds of hardships. And I can't be a housewife, and a housewife can't work like me. So, we can just go our own ways.

Agree. Full support.

A mom who sometimes feels lost after having a child. Red flag or green flag?

1, 2, 3. Is it more allowed or not?

It's more allowed or not. Don't say red flag or green flag. It's true, right?

If I feel lost after having a child, I think it's a normal feeling. Because we've never felt that before. We've never learned from our mothers. We've never been to school as a mother. So, it's normal to lose yourself.

Especially if we don't have a good and good support system. It can make us more stressed. There are so many mothers out there who don't get full support from their neighbors, which can make them lose themselves even more. And the baby is still young. And before, she didn't want to be a mother.

So, Erica and I are quite privileged with our environment that supports us. And I hope the mothers out there can do the same thing as the other mothers. Especially us, other women. Especially since we're both women. I see it as either it comes from the environment or from yourself. Why? Because there are some women who want to handle everything by themselves. I don't want to, I don't believe it.

I take all the risks, one day, one day, 24 hours. That's what comes out as losing yourself. Of course, after losing yourself, you don't have's what makes you lose yourself. Of course, you lose yourself. You don't have time to take care of yourself. Maybe you don't eat regularly.

You don't have time to sleep. But that's already a choice. The worst thing about the environment is when you meet people in the house. In the house, maybe there people who live with their spouse. Yes, that's it.

The things that you have to demand or teach or that don't meet your wishes, sometimes it can make you stressed. You can choose the way out.

Next.

Making motherhood as a content field. Okay. Green flag or red flag? I can say this, if I may. Because if it doesn't endanger the children, I will go for it.

But there are some people who have different choices. But if it's endangering the children, like making the children tired, there are so many who have different choices. But if it's a child endangerment, like making the child tired, there are so many cases like that. Making the child tired, forcing the child, all kinds of things. I don't agree with that. Actually, the content field doesn't always involve money, guys.

Yeah, right.

It doesn't always about... Somehow, a mother, like me, or Rachel, posting her child is something to be proud of. It's cute. It's cute. Mothers who want to let the world know

how happy they are. Like sharing this moment, a good moment. Like, the progress is also like, my child can do this, my child can do that. So it's not just about money. In my opinion, it's the same. Don't let it be an exploitation. Because actually, if I can admit, I'm quite...

maybe people will say that I want to exploit my child, but I... Always ask, right? Besides always asking, I don't want to force them. Like, if you don't want to be videotaped anymore, okay, I won't.

If there's a brand that wants to join you, I'll ask them first, do you want to endorse? Yes, because he's an artist. So, he wants to. But if he doesn't want to, then fine.

It's actually a form of training. Facing the camera, you can help from the beginning.

So, you won't be nervous when you're older.

Okay?

Okay. Alright, we've reached the end of the show. So it won't be too much if it's too big Okay? Okay

Alright, we're at the end of the show We usually cover this with a cloth Do we still want to...

Use a cloth? But I want to spray it on my face Where was it? So that it can think Yeah, so I can be fresh

Okay

Huh?

What's wrong? I can immediately tell what's so I can be fresh. Okay. Why?

I can immediately know the quotes.

What are the quotes?

What are the quotes?

The quotes are... You can go first.

Okay.

Can you spray it first so it's easier to apply?

Life must go on, Lengchen.

The quotes from Buna are, parenting or motherhood, it's all your choice. This is your choice. This is your choice.

So cool.

Okay, good night guys. Thank you. Thank you. Good night. I love you. Bye.